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My ex and I divorced 3 years ago. He has 2 kids which I love as if they were my own. We have remained friendly and intimate for most of those 3 years. Neither one of us have dated or been with anyone else since the divorce. We fight a lot but the sex is great.
We have some type of connection that neither one of us can seem to break. We both know this is very unhealthy but we just cant seem to stay away from each other. We were miserable living together and I would not want to be married to him again. I also want to have my own kids and marry again but I have not been able to move on with my life. This is a totally strange siutation. Any advice is appreciated!!

2006-07-01 16:41:58 · 12 answers · asked by usalady32 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

12 answers

break the ties with him. go out . find some friends to occupy your time for now. learn to just say no. move on and find what you want in life.

2006-07-01 16:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by sweeetkisses2 3 · 0 0

If you know it's unhealthy and the only thing you can say is the sex is great, then what are you doing? You are never going to be able to have a healthy relationship, let alone a family with another man if you can't cut these ties. If the kids are important to you, than maybe you can keep some type of contact with them, but if it is too difficult to see them and still set boundaries for you an your ex, then cut them all loose, and move on with your life. I know this may sound harsh, but maybe that is what needs to happen for everyone's sake, besides, the kids know you guys aren't together anymore, and if you're not their biological mom, which it sounds like you're not, then it is probably really confusing for them that you keep popping up in the picture, don't either of you think about their thoughts and feelings. Are you doing damage to those poor children for your own sexual satisfaction? If so, don't you think that's pretty sad?

2006-07-01 16:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by jensarquist 3 · 0 0

What you have with Him is called a soul-tie. Even though you two may not get along to well in some areas of your relationship you are knitted together . this is what is supposed to happens when people get married. that is why it is said that the two become as one. Maybe seek out some professional and spiritual counseling

2006-07-01 16:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by darny135 2 · 0 0

You said; "We both know this is very unhealthy but we just cant seem to stay away from each other"


Focus on the "this is very unhealthy" and move on before something bad happens.

Seems like you know what to do, just do it.

Alternative: Seek professional advise. Good luck.

2006-07-01 16:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by jinx4swag 3 · 0 0

Hey, I have the perfect answer fo you, but doubt if you would do it..
Move to another City or State... Do not give ANY PERSON YOUR PHONE NUMBER OR ADDRESS. Quit doing what you are doing... Seems as if the kids are being used as a bridge..

2006-07-01 16:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well, the first thing is to stop sleeping with him! Break the connection, so that both of you can move on!

2006-07-01 16:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 5 · 0 0

Get married again and maintain seperate households. You don't have to live together to be married.

2006-07-01 16:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by Calvin James Hammer 6 · 0 0

yall two are suppose to be together. Would u think so. Yall can not be part. I beat u will be together again sometime later

2006-07-01 16:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by bebe 2 · 0 0

give it another go mama! i mean if you want him and his kids then why not?
how about date? not just sex but get to know each other again!
start over!

if all else fails avoid him and hell go away and outta your mind soon! trust me!

2006-07-01 16:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

it really sound to me that u and him was meant to be together if u can't live without him or live with him . and that u still want him then i would say give it another try

2006-07-01 16:46:15 · answer #10 · answered by angel h 4 · 0 0

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