There isn't a set age for anyone!
I waited until i got married, and let me tell ya! It was great to be able to save myself for that night! (My husband too!)
I'll tell you, it wasn't easy waiting till we got married. We waited because our Religion tells us we should, and because we believe our faith, we wanted too!
Doesn't mean we aren't human! There were times where we almost lost it! But remembering where we wanted to be, and why we wanted to get there made it all worth it!
How to fight the urge!? Well, we took my little bro wherever we went, he was a great chaparone! (He was 6) Also by remembering you want to wait till you get married and give your future spouse the best gift you can give them, YOU, clean and pure!
And it wasn't humiliating on our wedding night, when we had NO idea what we were doing! (i mean we knew how sex worked, but by all means had no experience!) Because we both didn't know, it was awesome!
I understand about peer pressure! It's hard, but if you have made up your mind, tell your friends that you have made your decision and if they are good friends they will respect your decision!
You do not need to be a parent at this age! It doesn't 'ruin' your life but it will definetly turn it down a path there is very difficult!
Sex also isn't an emotionless event! Maybe for guys it's more because it feels good, and maybe for some girls too! But most of the time sex can just complicate things! It's a very emotional act! Which is why it's much better to wait until you are married or engaged (fully commited) and ready! Either to take on the responsibility of being a parent or ready to give yourself up to someone else!
It's a wonderful thing, and should be used within a relationship where there is commitment!
My advice, don't give in! Wait for someone VERY VERY special! You may ask well, when will I know they are VERY VERY Special, well i can't tell you! But what i can tell you is, You will know! It will be the most awesomest feelings in the world! (I don't however believe it will happen in HIgh School!) And that may even been on your wedding night, and if it is, thats wonderful!
Good Luck!
2006-07-01 16:41:02
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answered by Anonymous
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You really need to wait until you feel ready. It is not about age. It is about you feeling secure with your body and being in love with the person. If you think you should wait, then wait. Don't do things just because others are, you will regret it. There are so many diseases out there and would you be prepared to have a child. These are things to think about when you are considering having sex. Also since you are wanting to wait until you are getting married you must have religious reasons too and you don't want to jeopardize that. Use your mind, heart and soul, and not your (you know what.) Good luck!
2006-07-01 16:33:10
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answered by noseygirl 5
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There is no age. It's whenever you feel like your ready. And if you want to wait till marriage i encourage you to do so. Tell your friends that if they respect you that they'll stop pressuring you into sex. Wait for crying out loud. I'm a teen too, I feel pressure also but I'm not going to give into it because i don't want to. Don't do it just because people say that you "should" be a certain age or because "it feels good". Because people exaggerate. . .if it's not at the right time with the right person it's not going to feel good. Did you know that most teens regret having their first time? 1 in 3 sexually active teens regret having sex.
Good Luck and Please wait because your obviously not ready just confused. You'll be happier than your buddies one of these days because you waited.
2006-07-01 18:13:41
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answered by Anonymous
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Don't give in until your ready. If that's when your married, then that's when it is. If it is before then, Oh well...it was a nice try. The important thing is to not be pressured into "it". Yes "it" feels good and the pressure is on, but there really is more to it than that. Be ready to be responsible to the girl you choose to do "it" with, and be ready to be responsible to yourself as well. Have the maturity to know that there is so many emotions around the event, during the event, and after the event that you owe it to yourself to take your time and make "it" special.
2006-07-01 16:36:21
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answered by bloomquist324 4
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2006-07-01 16:30:27
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answered by MCS589 2
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2006-07-01 16:29:08
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answered by icywindstorm 2
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well my plan is to wait for the right guy that I think I will marry, I am not sure if I will wait till I marry. If you are waiting becasue of religion, it makes it a little different, I used to be more religious and thought I would wait till marriage, but I found if I did not make myself wait until who even knows when I will get married, I though t about it less. So do it when you meet the girl you think is right to lose it to. It is your choice, and it doesn't really matter when you do it
2006-07-01 16:55:43
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answered by Jessica 4
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You should never do it just because your friends are or even if a guy pressures you. Its your body and your decision alone. I had sex for the first time when i was 16. I wish to God I could have waited and urged myself to wait until i was married. I wish i could have given that to the man i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. But, i didn't and that is something i will have to live with. I also got pregnant at 17. That is something that could happen to girls who start having sex in their teens. I love her to death but, its not worth it. I didn't have the chance to be young.
2006-07-01 16:33:30
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answered by natasha s 3
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There is no age. Do whatever feels right to you, but just remember that NOT having sex is the only way to stay clear of the STDs and unwanted pregnancies. Your friends are probably having fun but wait until one of them screws up just once, forgets a condom or something, and they'll be paying for it the rest of their lives.
It's a stupid thing to think about all the time anyway, what's the point? There's more to life.
2006-07-01 16:30:44
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answered by onemoreordinaryday 3
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wow, now a days people think that it's okay to do what others are doing even if it is wrong. at first they'd feel guilty knowing that what they just did was wrong but as time passes the guilty feeling subsides and they'll do it again until the guilt goes away and making it feel normal and not bad/wrong. i guess that's how it all started then since everyone is doing it we cannot differentiate right from wrong making us all blind. i think the question shouldn't be at what age should you loose your virginity it should be when is the right time and the answer is ideally when you are with the one you love on the first night of your wedding day.
2006-07-01 16:40:36
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answered by Anonymous
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