I'm young and I do things I do not suppose to do cuz my parents told me not to.I lie and cheat all the time but I don't know how to stop, can you pleaze help me?
2006-07-01 16:18:52 · 18 answers · asked by teryhotbod 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
go to your parents and tell them what you just told us.
2006-07-01 16:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well most people do like to be told what to do....but in reality your parents are always right. Trust me on this one you should definatly listen to the advice they give you I am 26 and I wish I listened alot more. You may not realize that things that you are doing are harming your future and lying is a very bad habit to get into. If you are lying to your parents about stuff because you dont want to deal with the consequences they I suggest you stop and be honest with them they will respect you much more for it. And what ever you are doing Stop doing it. Dont lie to them they have been there and I a sure it will only be a matter or time before they actually catch you lying or cheating. You want people to like you in the future and take you seriously then dont lie and cheat. You wont get ahead in life that way. And the fact that you know it wrong is good listen to your self ....you will be much happier.
2006-07-01 16:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by Glittergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not old, but I am older, and when I was a teen I put my parents through hell because I felt like they didn't want me to have any fun, didn't want to let me do anything, etc, but now that I am older, I realize that they were just trying to protect me and do what they thought was best for me. I am a mom now, and I try to do the same for my girls, I know I have made mistakes, and will continue to make them, but I hope that they will take most of what I teach them and use it knowing that I have the best intentions. My best advice to you is that if you realize what you're doing is wrong, then there is hope for you, because that means that a part of you wants to change. If you are simply doing things because your parents have said not too, then maybe you should reflect on that, and figure out why they don't want you to do it. As far as the lying goes, take this from someone with expeience, it takes years to build up trust, but only a second to lose it. I know, I used to lie to my dad all the time, and it took a very long time for him to trust me again. Well I hope that maybe in some way this will help, just try to think, if you had kids, how would you want them to act???? I don't know exactly how old you are, and I'm certainly not suggesting you have kids at this point in time or anything, I'm just saying, put yourself in your parents shoes, and if you were them, would you like how you're acting, or would you want it to be different. Well, GOOD LUCK....;
2006-07-01 16:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by jensarquist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I don't think there has ever been a teenage girl that has ever been this way before. Hmmm.....
What you do is stop lying. What good does it do you? You say you feel bad but keep it up. You have not reached age where feeling bad is enough....right.
If just a very few years you will look back at this and say what the hell was I thinking? How could my parents have ever put up with me?
When your reach the age of about 14 thru 17, or even later, you loose your mind. I am serious you do. Common sense has no more meaning to you than the belief you could fly to the moon.
While your lying to your parents hurts them to some extent it is you who will pay for it...one way or another.
Just ask yourself...what am I getting out of lying. Hangin out with the guys when they don't want you to? Having sex when they don't want you to? Well like I said you will be the one who pays for your sins. So don't do it. At the very least stop lying.
2006-07-01 16:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, yeah! You've made a great start realizing you have a problem and are not doing the right thing. But the first step in doing the right thing is to recognize the bad.. and make a change. Yes, you've asked this question publicly, and the next step is to tell your parents what you have already realized about your life. Would you want your kid in the future to do what you are doing to your own parents now? Take another step to make a change. It's not too late! Good luck!
2006-07-01 17:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by Erasmo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take more pride in yourself! Being young is hard, but you are still responsible for your actions. You shouldn't do things that make you unhappy just cause you despise the rule. If anything wouldn't you start to realize why your parents wouldn't want you doing those things? Try to remember that as frustrating as it is to be a teenager, It's just as frustrating to be the parent of the teenager.
2006-07-01 16:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by North of Heaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to go against your parent's wishes. Just don't do anything TOOOOOOO terribly bad that will get your behind put in Juvie Detention. If you really wanna stop, go to church. Christianity will give you the descretion and the Holy Spirit (angel ont the shoulder) type of conscience. Don't beat yourself up too much, you will appreciate your parent's opinion some day, trust me.
2006-07-01 16:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by absolutedejavu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start listening to your parents before you make a mistake that you can't take back. If you have sense enough to realize that you are making the wrong choices, then you should have sense enough to stop. No one can help you if you don't first make an effort to help yourself.
2006-07-01 16:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go see a therapist.
And stop lying to your parents, They tell you not to go there for a reason, They are much older than you and know more than you. If they don't trust you to do what you are doing then there has got to be a reason. What if you end up hurt doing what your not supposed to be doing? Then what???
Then you would say I should have listend to my parents...
Don't mess up your life.. Listen to them... They are there for a reason
2006-07-01 16:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by echoesrocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't do it on your own, then there may be little hope for you! I know I've been through a similiar situation where someone lied, stole, and totally lost my respect for them. You should be able to know right from wrong.
2006-07-01 16:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by Ron T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i use to think that all the time when i was little, bu then i realized that they are worried about me b/c they care about my well-being, my welfare, n my future. So, pleaseeeeee take it from me they really do care for u not b/c they don't want u to have fun, one day u will look back n thank them endlessly!!
2006-07-01 16:25:29 · answer #11 · answered by Lovemylifefriendsfamily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋