I am going to attend a college that is close to home but now I feel that I have made a mistake. I had the oppoortunity to go off to college but my fear of leaving my family made me stay. Now that I want to go to a far away college it is too late, I would have to transfer, but I also don't want to deal with the hassle of transferring, its like the whole college process again.
2006-07-01 15:51:34 · 14 answers · asked by Blahinyourface.. 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Robert Frost's poem of "The road not taken" is one of my favorites.
College is so expensive and so stressful, my recommendation is firstly, will the college you've chosen be the one to best prepare you for your plans for yourself four years from now? (Best guess?)
Maybe, if your doubts continue, you could agree to do one year locally and plan to visit friends who are students at schools a little farther from home over break and long weekends. 1) you can party with them and de-stress (all students are stressed because there's so much pressure), and maintain your friendships; 2) gather information from them and your own impressions to see if you might want to transfer sophmore or junior year to some place a little further from home; 3) this could ease the transition from living at home to being away from home. In a year or two you'll feel more comfortable with college life in general and you will be better informed and have a little better idea of what you might want to do once you graduate.
Colleges and universities offer emersion programs and such which could be another way to experience getting away. The local school that you are registered at now may offer something like that -- say a week or a month or a semester in another county or environment -- and it could be more suited to your interest. For instance an archeological dig in South America or working in a soup kitchen in New York or any millions of other things.
Not knowing what the future holds can be scary. If you recognize a certain amount of fear, that alone can reduce it. You'll be fine. If you've accepted and been accepted somewhere, congratulations! You are in my prayers, my Dear.
2006-07-01 16:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by LindaLou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 22 and have stayed in the same town and never ventured away for college. I go to a community college here and am now wishing I would have left when I was younger. I am planning to move 2 months from now and am very scared to leave my family but I know I need to get out and be independent before I spend my entire life in the same place. If all else finish up your first semester where you are and transfer. But always remember you need to live for you and no one else. Go and experience things so at least you can say you did.
2006-07-01 15:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going off to college is best. At first, about 3 months you do miss your family but, it's such a growing and maturing experience. I think it would be worth the transferring hassle.
2006-07-01 15:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jade Ariana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your classes at home for now. You may change your mind and decide to transfer even with the hassles. Sounds like you need a break for now on all the applications, etc.
2006-07-01 15:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by sheristeele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....give the school you are going to a chance.
You may like it there. If not, just transfer. Don't stay at a place that you don't like. Or stay there with regrets.
If you don't like it, you will have to transfer. Just how it goes, hun. Good luck.
ETA: There is nothing wrong with staying with your family. Some people just don't appreciate their family. There is nothing wrong with leaving home, either. So....ignore the wanker who makes it sound like staying at home when youre a freshman is such a bad thing.
2006-07-01 15:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by ProfessorFarnsworth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think going off to college is way better, you get some freedom and living in the dorm away from parents not only gives you a more realistic perspective of life, but you form great friendships with people you normally might not even talk to!
2006-07-01 15:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by surferchick1309 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to college and was only 30 mins. away from home. it was perfect. I stayed on campus at first, then when I got older (and changed majors a couple of times) then I moved home. It is far enough away, but when I was sick and needed/wanted to go home, they could come and get me with no hassle... You will be fine, just stay on campus for your own sanity... LOL
2006-07-01 15:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by absolutedejavu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My situation at home was rather extreme and it negatively impacted my educational pursuits. If I could do it again, I would transfer even if it meant starting over. I stayed and I regret that choice. The decision is yours and the consequences are yours. Do what feels right to you. All the best.
2006-07-01 15:57:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go away! you learn so much about just everyday living and being on your own and taking responsibility for yourself. I was nervous about leaving friends and family at home too.....but i got to a school thats 2 hours away so its not too far and i come home about once a month and thats just perfect!
2006-07-01 18:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by lk2887 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are uncertain, why not do your first year locally and then transfer. Actually, my daughter went locally and got her AA, then transferred farther away (by then she was ready) to get her BA.
2006-07-01 15:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋