My boyfriend sometimes will go limp, right when we're about to go, and he doesn't know why. We think when he gets cold it goes limp, like when a fan is blowing in the room or if it's wintertime. What can cause this?
I try telling him it just happens sometimes and try saying other things to cheer him up but he gets so depressed and beats himself up over it. What can I say to make him feel better?
2006-07-01 15:41:18 · 12 answers · asked by Brackalicious 4 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I generally DO NOT recommend most people to go see your doctor as it is costly and not worth it.. but in this case.. I would recommend he seeing a doctor about it.. I think with some medical additions (NOT viagra) the problem can be resolved
2006-07-01 15:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes stress, trouble at work or other issues start clouding the mind, which happens to be the most erogenous organ in the body, just when things are starting to get hot and heavy. Or maybe he has guilt feelings about sex. If he was brought up in a conservative family that always talked about premartial sex being sinful.... it could cause impotence.
It could be a new medication he is taking some have this unfortunate side effect. There are also some other possible medical reasons, So your bf should talk to his dr. to rule anything out.
In the meantime the best thing is to show him support, patience and understanding. Don't try to push him to much to try again too soon. It does happen to other guys. My husband went through several months of frustration as a result of a new perscription he was taking. The perscription was changed and we are back to enjoying our playtime again.
2006-07-01 22:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we all know that there is more to sex than just having sex. It really is better to have safe sex. But to answer your question there are many things that can interrupt intercourse. Sometimes it is something that a doctor needs to know about and then sometimes if you and your mate discuss what at that time is going on that effects his moment.
2006-07-01 22:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by ddy'sgrl77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your boyfriend's age, this is very unusual. It certainly isn't caused by a cool breeze... this is just an excuse to cover up his embarrassment. He is suffering from performance anxiety. It probably affects him in other aspects of his life. He may be dealing with past issues that are affecting his self-esteem. You need to find ways to build his confidence outside of the bedroom. It will not be an instant fix, because every failure will make it that much harder for him to succeed. Meanwhile, find other ways to please each other that do not require him to perform.
2006-07-01 22:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Annette R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont try cheerful its a bummer,,, just ask him for some oral ,,and he will come back,,, i do,,,, its the feelings of the womans response that drives me,,, but he needs to see a pro about prostate or other health issues ,,,,if he doesnt have high blood pressure, he could take cealis or viagra,,, just one on a friday night and i can have sex till sunday night,, i ried it once and she said no more as she didnt get any thing else done all weekend ,,,
2006-07-01 22:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yall need Viagara. He could have High Blood pressure. If he works long hours, that could cause it. Also, work his erogenous zones.
2006-07-01 22:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by Yahoo answer dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl kick his *** to the curb, he is USELESS. His limp *** cant do you any good now, count your blessings that you found this out before you married "IT".
2006-07-02 00:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by bitchy_woman_yet_sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest a visit to the doctor where he can get his health checked. You could be supportive and go with him.
2006-07-01 22:45:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him some viagra caus eit happens to all men at some time
2006-07-01 22:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by likeskansas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your diet can have alot to do with it.....
fatty foods...not very good...
tobacco use...has alot to do with it...
stress...alot to do with it
have him go to a urologist just to rule out any problems..you can go with them...they'll just ask some questions unless they think something seriously wrong..
maybe more foreplay and a tad more adventurous and doing different things in the bedroom instead of same old routine helps too
good luck
2006-07-01 22:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by joschaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋