We have 2 kids together,he has been gone now for 6 yrs.he gets out in 2007.Says he's changed.Only an *** would risk it right?
2006-07-01 15:38:08 · 30 answers · asked by green_car_gone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't for the sake of the children. Move on I know it will be hard but you can do bad by yourself. Safety first. Who will raise your children the way you would if something happens to you.
I wish you the best! Do the right thing!! Pray on it!
Good luck!
2006-07-01 15:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you know he hasn't changed, but in prison he couldn't get by with being the big guy, the mean guy, there is always someone worse than him.....he just hasn't had the opportunity to beat up on anyone weaker than him. I was in an abusive relationship, you are lucky to be away from him, God gave you this chance to live your life without him, take it, and use it wisely. He hasn't changed, it's not within him to change, no matter how much he might think it has. The only difference is the triggers, you, the kids, whatever it may be, are gone for now. Good luck, honey.
2006-07-06 18:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by msuesmiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that if the abusive man got some Psychotherapy and some counseling while in prison and after he gets out of prision and attends Group Counceling, he may begin to get a starting point. There is a reason for his abusive actions and he needs to find out why he has abusive ways. Six years of prision is not going to change him, possibly Psychosical therapy.
2006-07-01 23:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be afraid that prison just made him worse. Did you get him put away? If so, I'd be afraid he'd have some pent up hostility over the matter. Even if you aren't actually responsible, he may not see it that way. If you don't want to think of yourself, think of your kids.
Give him some time out, see what he's like, then if you feel safe around him, and want to give it a shot, start by dating him again, not by letting him move back in.
And if it starts again, don't hesitate, have him put away again, don't risk your health or your childrens health.
2006-07-01 22:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing you really know deep inside you heart if he has changed or not if you have doubts my guess is no he hasn't though if hes good with your kids let him be in their life if you think he will also abuse them then don't allow it. If he did get some kind of counseling in there to control his behavior then maybe its worth to give him a chance but if you don't feel he has then move on and make a better life for you cuz not one deserves to be abused no matter what.
2006-07-01 22:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he said he has changed. What else is he going to tell you. "Oh I haven't changed. Can't wait to knock you around again. Boy I missed that." Come on. Think about it. Is that the kind of life you want your children to have? Do you want your children growing up thinking that it is okay to hit? Stay away from him. If you want him to see the children have supervised visitation set up through the courts. With is record it wouldn't be that difficult.
Good luck to you. Remember, you are worth more than what he give you.
2006-07-02 00:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by Luvmt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean that you have been faithfully been waiting for him for six years - in the hope that he would change? I don't think I would have been able to do that.
Was he in prison for abusing you, or one of the children? I wonder if you can check with someone at the prison to see if they really think he has magically changed. Be careful! Good night. :)
2006-07-01 22:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by Terri C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him time when he gets out let him stay some where else first like in his parents house. Let him find a job see how he acts in front off u first if u see it in his eye that he change go for it. But dont let love ful yaw.
2006-07-01 22:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO i do not believe, i lived with abuse all my life , they were in and out of jail, but it all ended up the same.. i had to change ...the type of man i chose in the end was unlike any of them ... and the sad thing it took me 40 yrs to do it.....
2006-07-01 22:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by nowka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not risk it. You have learned to live without him the last few years. Minimize contact with him. Why risk your mental and physical health and safety? There are many, many good men out there.
2006-07-01 22:51:23 · answer #10 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋