MY EX HUSBAND CHEATED ON ME WITH THIS WOMAN WHO IS NOW 8 MONTHS PREGNANT WITH HIS CHILD... WE BEEN SEPARATED FOR 4 MONTHS NOW AND HE LIVES WITH HER. BECAUSE OF THE KIDS WE STILL KEEP IN TOUCH AND OFTEN HE VISITS SO WE END UP IN BED. HE TELLS ME HOW MUCH HE LOVES ME AND WANTS TO COME BACK BUT I SAY NO ALTHOUGH I LOVE HIM BACK. BUT I FEEL LIKE THE "OTHER WOMAN" NOW. IS IT RIGHT WHAT I'M DOING???
2006-07-01 15:36:09 · 15 answers · asked by Chica Loca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your sitiation is complicated after all he was your husband and you do havee kids together and you obviously still care for him deeply but he cheated on you and as a result is having a baby with someone else. Sleeping with him may give you some sense of satisfaction but the real satisfaction you deserve should come from a man that is devoted to you and your children. You need to tell him unxomfortable you feel in this situation that you even feel like the other woman and that if the two of you are going to continue to be intimate you need him to be monogomous to you. Even if it takes time before you can act like husband and wife again and you can only be friends you need to practice safe sex. What would happen if you got pregnant also are you prepared to deal with those consequebces with him. When he comes over try no to let him stay over all the time, spend your time doinig other things besides being intimate and get to know your husband all over again and then decide if you still want your marriage to him to work cause right now you need a friend more than a lover. Fight your urges, buy a vibrator, and most of all pray. My heart goes out to you,
2006-07-01 16:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by missconduct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've come to realize through my own experience that if a man really loves you then his actions will show that he loves you. He will pursue you unlike any other and he will go to the ends of the earth to have you in his life. Like many of the other people prior to me have said, he's basically getting what he wants from this situation. Please believe that he's telling his other child's mother that he loves her too.
I don't know how spiritual you are but I've always been told and have learned that your husband is supposed to love you like Christ loves the church and gave his life for her. This guy hasn't given his life for you not even in the figurative sense. If his life was about being a player then guess what he's still living the life and you're allowing him to do it.
When you love someone you want what's best for them. If HE loved you then he would know that what's best for you is to not be emotionally or sexually connected to him after he's already hurt you.
The difference between men and women sexually is that for a lot of men it's about a release and not necessarily about expressing love. Especially not in this situation. Don't allow yourself to be his human receptacle or rather a human sperm bank. Right now for him that's all you are. I hate to be blunt about it but it's the truth. You deserve more than that so you should treat yourself as such.
2006-07-01 17:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet_Sassy_Scorpio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your mother be there when he comes to visit. He still hass not made a choice. You deserve to be loved as much as you love someone and that went way out the window the first time he cheated
2006-07-01 15:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by simpli2die4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your name says it all....crazy woman. Why do you continue to degrade yourself by sleeping with a cheating two timer?? Every time you sleep with him you seep with every person HE has slept with and you expose yourself to all kinds of STD's. Have some self respect and throw his lying *** out the door the next time he gets frisky while visiting. I thought he was visiting the children??? Where are they when this is going on????
2006-07-01 15:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Steve's gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord Women have some self respect! This man is a dog and deserves to be kicked to the curb. How many other women does he have on the go.
GET A LIFE! Women like you give the rest of us a bad name!
2006-07-01 16:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by hermom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word...HIV! Girl, quit sleeping with him. He is obviously using you and this other woman since she is 8 months pregnant. You are hurting yourself. He is having his cake, ice cream and Krispy Kreme doughnuts too....don't continue to live this lie. He is your ex for a reason. You are right...you are the other woman now.
2006-07-01 15:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you so much, he would not have slept with someone else and not used protection. He is only using you. Being with two different women is just building up his ego. Even though you have kids with him, you need to move on. Afterall, he has.
2006-07-01 16:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by cici 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel like the other woman because you ARE the other woman. He's living with HER, not you.
2006-07-01 15:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chica Loca is a good name it would be alright if you all moved to Utah and became Mormons. Have some self respect and get rid of him once and for all YOU DESERVE SOMEONE WHO ONLY WANTS YOU!!
2006-07-01 15:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are the one who will always be hurt. As you can see, once a cheater, always a cheater. Move on and find someone who can treat you like a queen.
2006-07-01 15:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by 2bizy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋