okay i have to add more...lol
one side has children that are grown..........
and the other side has children that are supposed to be grown.....
crap i forgot my question...........
damn................
well............my spouse gives in to her children all the time and i don't....how can i keep her from giving in....these are grown children or supposed to be geesh
2006-07-01 15:27:19 · 5 answers · asked by skoe 1 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
I'm sure you've told her this but emphasis that they can only
grow up if they learn to do things for themselves and make their
own mistakes. I have an aunt who caves in to almost of her kids
ages 27-42. Her oldest actually is independent. We confront her
about this and she'll may put her foot down but pretty soon she'll
cave all over again. Her business isn't making much money and
business is near dead and instead of helping her out, a couple
want to work and get paid for doing nothing. She doesn't have
much money to her name and even when business was well
they left her for dry. I tell you this to show what might happen if
she continues her route. But if you can't get through to her, I don't
know what you could do.
2006-07-01 15:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by retrodragonfly 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You will never be able to interfere with a woman and her children. This is her purrogative and she needs your support. If you came into the marriage with children on both sides, you have to accept the whole package. Hounding her is going to make her resent you. There is constructive ways to let her know she may be letting her kids push her around, but seriously the best thing is to just not say a word unless it involves you personally.
2006-07-01 22:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how grown are the children?? when you combine families like ya'll have and ya'll both have different parenting styles it is difficult.. what may seem silly or wrong to you isn't to your spouse.. as long as there aren't any major conflicts i would not stress so much over it... try talking, not demanding or confronting, your spouses kids and tell them how you feel.. can't hurt...
2006-07-01 22:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving in is like handing them a Crutch; they will never learn their way in this world and stand on their own two(2) feet.
2006-07-01 22:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by lousylaus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is bearable, then let it go. If not you can do without this woman.
2006-07-02 04:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋