why are pepleo so redundant and assinine?

Question

why are people so mean to others? I ask because I work at a store where apparently I am supposed to take cruelty from others? I don't think so! Its very stressful and I cannot quit my job without severe consequences, but staying is causing me great pain due to stress

I ask, because I have taken this for FIVE YEARS, I am not shy, weak or sensitive.

Answer 1

Perhaps you shouldn't work with the public. It sounds like you have a very thin skin. You need to learn to let stuff bounce off of you without hurting you - after all, these are strangers so what does their opinion mean to you?

Sorry you had a bad day. Hope it gets better.

Answer 2

Everyone gets picked-on by someone. For example, a little employee from a computer company gets yelled at by his boss during work. He can't afford loosing his job, so he doesn't say anything. Later, he gets out from work, only the anger he has not yet expressed is building up in him. The first person he considers a good target gets attacked for no reason, and that person can very easily be you. That's what people do, they need to make someone feel bad because they were upset by someone more powerful than them. You say you work at store, so must come into contact with such people every day. It all starts in one place and it spreads like a disease. Something like the butterfly effect, one person upsets another, the other one upsets 2 and so on... and a few of them may walk in your store. There is nothing you can do except finding a way to relieve your stress at home or in your brakes.

Answer 3

The sad truth is because people don't care about you. People are so involved with thier own lives that they can't stop to be mannered/polite to some forms of service. Whatever it is that you're doing for them, the people who are mean to you probably believe that they must express thier feelings that you are inadequate with whatever you're doing, whether its true or not. Honestly, if you went to a drug store to purchase a bar of soap after a long day of work and the clerk makes one tiny mistake, they just wasted your valuable time. The only thing you can do about it, because you're so out of control of even your own emotions, is to express the anger in your life.

The best way to deal with people like that, is to go beyond thier feelings and stay positive. If someone is a real dick to you, and you're nothing but a sweetheart the entire time they're flipping out, they might get the idea that theres something wrong with them! Be the best worker you can be, and if people get mad when you don't do anything wrong, its completely obvious that they dont have a handle on thier life. Or they're just *****. They exist, you know, people who are always mean because they're unhappy with thier own lives.

Answer 4

I know exactly where you are coming from girl!! I worked at a grocery store for two years and i had to take that same s*%t from people i recently quit and it was one of the best moments ever!!! i am sorry that you cant feel the same way but thank you for making me appreciate this feeling! I have to tell you that people are jerks they dont care about anyone but themselves i wish i could tell you something better but unfortunatly there is no fixing them! What i always use to do was i use to treat the total a$$ holes really nice and make them feel bad for treating me like **** i guess the only thing you can do is talk crap about them with your coworkers when they leave!!hahahah that is what i use to do! I cheered me up a bit!

Answer 5

Most people are extremely unhappy in their lives. Married partners hate each other, divorced people hate their ex's and hate themselves, single people hate being single, but hate the dating game, the living hate the dying and visa verse, the rich hate the poor and the poor hate the rich. People are unhappy because of failed expectations and unfortunately they take out their personal failures on innocent people like you. No matter where you go you are going to run into unhappy people. Changing jobs is not going to improve the situation. Things might improve for a few weeks, but sooner or later you are going to do something that will cause a sleeping volcano to erupt. The best advise that i can give you is to pray for those who persecute you and spitefully use you. Ask God to give you the patience to tolerate and manage an ever-increasingly angry public. Realize that it is not the person that is jumping on you, but a spirit. Without that spirit that person would be the most pleasant and accommodating individual in the world. The devil throws these spirits at you to drive you insane. Rebuke the devil in the name of Jesus. Jesus loves you and he wants you to grow spiritually. Trust him.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, when you work in a customer service job, handling complaints and rude behavior with grace is part of the job. Since you can't change your job, your going to need to change you're attitude about it. You can rise above the rude way people treat you by always treating them graciously and with politeness. This makes YOU the better person. And while the rude ones may not notice, other people will. Other customers will be impressed at your professionalism. Your boss will be impressed at your maturity and commitment. You will be impressed with yourself. And every now and then, you might actually get one of these rude people to change a little. We can't control other people, but if we can control ourselves and the way that we react, our lives can become much pleasanter. When we rise up above the level of the creeps, they don't win!

Answer 7

Don't Stress, Kill them with kindness, these people are really unhappy, they don't know God and they don't know what true happiness is, stress is ovetaking their life, they are self centered, and they take it out on whoever they can, i work in a stressful job too where I have to take alot of verbal abuse, (customer service) but I have found when you get to the point where you can be nice to them even when they are being rude to you, they start to be nice, weird isn't it, but hang in there and try a little kindness, do something unbelievable it will start to get better

Answer 8

They give up seeing people as people, and reduce them to motor functions. Disconnection insulates us from ourselves.. which we may fear in a public setting. Human interaction in the marketplace can be frustrating for people who presume they must be treated in a certain way. They may yell and scream because they suffer on some really deep levels they don't wish to communicate. Shifting blame onto store clerks -.- Really can't do much but pity them. Getting angry at "how a person should behave" is just to become exactly.. "them".

Answer 9

You work in a store and you can't find a job in another store?

You put up with this for five years? Either you just like to complain or you secretly like it.

In five years you could have gone to school at night and learned a skill to get a different job.

Answer 10

Why are you using the word "so"?

So signifies a conclusion. You have obviously made one.

As this relates to work I will say this. Work is typically redundant and assinine. Especially if you don't like what you are doing, who you are doing it with, or how you are doing it.

Best advice. Get a life and find balance between what makes you happy and what allows you to be happy.