For the past 6 years I haven't had any friends. I was in an abusive relationship for over 3 years and he controlled every move I made including not allowing me to have any friends. I left him about three years ago and I'm in a great relationship now and he always tells me to do my own thing and pushes me to acheive my dreams. I'm pretty happy in life with the exception that I have zero friends. I talk to people at work, but it never goes any further. Everyone took off for the long weekend or is out watching fire works and I'm stuck at home writing this with a glass of wine in my hand. I feel like I've forgotten how to make and keep friends and I'm tired of not being able to call anyone except for my bf, mom and the pizza guy.
2006-07-01 15:09:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Gosh, I feel your pain! I am in a situation right now that does not allow me for much social contact. I read a book recently called "How to Be a people Magnet" by Leil Lowndes, and it really helped me be a little bit more sociable. My problem is that I am terrible with small talk and am shy, and that book helps explain how to conquer both those issues and then some. Hope that helps! I know it is miserable to be in that situation! :)
2006-07-01 15:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest volunteer work such as helping out at your local battered women's shelter or any other area of interest you have. You could also take a class at your local community college and/or join one of the student groups there. If you are into religion, most churches offer a variety of groups too or need volunteers. Also, check out your local library (if you like to read) and join a discussion group. If you are into politics, elections season is coming and every campaign needs volunteers. The bottom line is you have to get out of your home and into the world. Look for common ground with new people. Make eye contact and face them when you listen to them. (Note: From personal experience, sometimes it is better not to become too close to people you work with as you may become their supervisor some day and that can be difficult. )
2006-07-01 22:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kiwizmom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes I feel the same way. after spending too much effort and "life " on my relationship with my boyfriend, I end up losing any friends I ever had.. I feel like I am all alone too w no one but him and an occasional girlfriend who is always conveniently busy w something on the rare night when I am not with him, alone and need someone.... I guess its life, but it sure does suck.
Hey if you ever wanna chat , email etc. hit me up! link on my page.
good luck =)
2006-07-05 01:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same my friends which are 4 got married and all the men i was wed them left me just 4 not sleepin' wed them i mean 4 7 years i met men one at a time
at work all my collegues are older than me
i know u need help sorry i cant give u any way its what it meant to b so hang on one day u'll find what u want
2006-07-02 04:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by stloa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u have someone at work that u are sort of close to try talking to them, or ask one of them when they are going somewhere if u could go along. Make friends with your boyfriends friends or there girlfriends.
2006-07-01 22:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl_mandy82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people dont have very many close friends. i only have about 3 people i consider my friends.
2006-07-01 22:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by crackalac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I hear you I am here doing the same.
2006-07-01 22:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by Sammy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself
2006-07-01 22:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋