2006-07-01 15:06:27 · 18 answers · asked by thementalpatient2005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like my husband's analysis of me. Anyway, a lot of the times I do not realize I am acting in a way he would perceive as bitchy. I expect a lot of myself even if I know I cannot reasonble meet those expectations then I got frustrated. I can keep my calm in a crisis but fall apart over minor things like overcooking supper. Usually, I just need a hug, kiss, or some other form of contact to sooth me, but he is too put off by my manner to approach me or have me approach him. Maybe talk things over "when you_______ I feel ________." That way she has a clear example of her behavior and your feelings in a non-judgmental, non-confrontation manner so she does not get defensive. Distract her during these times or hold her close like you would a child - whatever works for her you know her best. Ask what you can do to help. Shrug it off. Talk to her about what is bothering her. Try some de-stressing together - Bubble baths, mutual massages, soft music and dancing, going for a walk - whatever common interests you have.
2006-07-01 16:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jill M 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all don't deal with her. Second of all, as they say, it's her world your just living in it. My suggestion is that do not acknowledge her "fits". That will let her know in time, that that will no longer work. Bitchy doesn't necessarily mean a *****. what that means is that she is talking over your interpretation of your language. Let her take on the responsibility of her own actions. She only wants a reaction from you. Don't give it to her. Meanwhile, be empathetic, and understanding. That's all she really wants
2006-07-01 22:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by candlemia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to sit down and talk about this. Tell her that your serious about the issue. Because marriage is a lasting relationship and im sure u love each other. You both need to get the best out of it. Ask her what will make her happy, what u must do to make her happy. And tell her what you want also and compromise. Another thing, be sweet to her, give her flowers and surprise her. Im sure she will be closer and closer to u.
2006-07-01 22:14:30 · answer #3 · answered by orkid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude!! this is a simple question, and here is a simple answer premenstrual post-menstrual-menopause-need I say more? Men MAYBE get 4 days of piece a month due to women's Hormones and cycles. Just one 25 year married mans opinion. When I see the BEAST arrive I go for a drive
2006-07-01 22:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by HENNY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just lately, or always? I get like that when work is stressing me out. If it's just lately you could ask her if there's anything you could do to help her feel better. If it's all the time, you could share with her that you'd like to "work on how we communicate". this'll hopefully open the way for to you to tell her in a nice way that being witchy doesn't help things, so if somethings up, she should be an adult and talk to her man about it like she said so in her vows.
2006-07-01 22:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by bride 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her. Find out why she is behaving this way. I recently read a book called The Five Languages of Love. You should both take the test in their to find out what your "love language" is. This will help you find out how she needs to receive love. I highly recommend it. It is a great way to get some insight.
2006-07-01 22:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read the previous answers and I must address Noggle4s' reply..Has it ever occurred to you that not every problem in a woman's world is just waiting to be "FIXED" by a man? Were not looking for you to fix our problems, just help us to face them. I think thementalpat... needs to swallow an empathy pill, put on his listening ears, sit his wife down and be determined to ask and listen with only one thing...his heart.
2006-07-01 22:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by knrsits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
figure out why she is so bitchy, or ask her why. Then go from there. You cannot fix anything if you do not know what shes pissed about to start with.
2006-07-01 22:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by noggle4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should set up some counseling sessions with a therapist or a minister and let her know how displeased you are with her bad attitude!
2006-07-01 22:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by bebelucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in being forward even with the ones we love. Talk to her and and tell how she makes you feel when she like that.
If all else fails, give her a dosage of her own medicine.
2006-07-01 22:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by Madame Butta-fly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋