before leaving for work tonight, my husband says we can have sex if I get dishes cleaned and clean living room before he gets home at midnight.
i say so what. but if I do, then-----
should I give in to him?
2006-07-01 14:48:07 · 14 answers · asked by cats3inhouse 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we have been together for 16yr. been on computer for 2 hours now. dont want to clean,
I have been up since 5am- went to work at burger king till 2 pm, came home got dinner, and got 2 loads of wash done. really dont want to do it now, cant I do it tomorrow.
even if i do it, doesnt mean he wont be to tired to do anything at midnight anyway.
clean for nothing? lol.
no he only wants sex 2 times on weekends anyways. he works 4am during the week.
2006-07-01 15:02:30 · update #1
yes, i dont like cleaning, there is only a sink full of dishes, and i really hate doing dishes,
i do dishes all day at burger king, thats why hate doing dishes at home too.
2006-07-01 15:06:38 · update #2
by the way, I didnt do the work. and he was too tired when he got home at 12 30am this morning and neither of us got up till 8am. anyway. so im glad i didnt do them last night.
but they are done now.
2006-07-02 09:24:59 · update #3
I say HELL NO!!!! I'm a man and I would never give an ultimatum like that. Sounds like to me he's trying to control you. Do not give in to him.
2006-07-01 14:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
First off,your husband shouldn't treat you like you are a child playing lets make a deal! I don't mean to be rude or offend in anyway,but his thoughts of what a husband 's respect towards his wife or any woman for that matter is rude and very controlling.I really think that he feels that treating you in such a manner makes him feel manly or something.There would be no way i would stand by and let anyone treat me in such a manner.I wouldn't want a man to have conditions to want to be intimate with me to begin with.That is down grading as a woman to be treated that way or to make me feel low self esteem about my self.Maybe you should reverse the role and give him a dose,like when he makes demands,you make the demand that you are not giving him anything until he can go to work and come home with respect towards you,being his supposedly,soul mate.I don't see how you do it,i wish you the best girl and good luck to you both!
2006-07-01 22:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The unfortunate thing about husbands (and men in general) ----
You can't live with 'em; you can't live without 'em...
and the Law says you can't shoot 'em...!!!
If he's giving you an ultimatum, then 1 of two things is happening:
A) you are not a good house-keeper /house wife if he has to use sex or other means to manipulate you into doing your job!
B) if your part is done as a dutiful wife and he still is blackmailing (or guilt-tripping) you into doing stuff, then ditch his a**!
2006-07-01 22:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by druansha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have a full time job outside the house it is reasonable...infact necessary, that you consider maintaining the house your job. Didn't sound like much of an assignment either.
As for sex... don't punish him by withholding it. If you really don't want it...well... that's your perogative....but if you withold it to get back at him...it will end someday...and you'll be the reason.
2006-07-01 21:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by gcbtrading 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you.... the Mr. Clean camera crew would be rapping up production after filming their next commercial in my kitchen. Get ready and have fun with him!!! The house should be clean, though anyway, girlie.
2006-07-01 21:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should and not to sound sexist but if you don't work outside of the house why isn't it already cleaned I'd be pissed if I had to work allday and than come home and clean to or deal with a messy house because my wife is to lazy to clean
2006-07-01 21:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by ja man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when was the last time you two did the deed? if it has been a while since do it if not wait till he gets home then start cleaning.
2006-07-01 21:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by silverback_viper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do... do the dishes, clean the living room, fufill your needs yourself and when he gets home tell him you've already done everything so he can go F@#K himself!!
2006-07-01 22:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is your husband thinking? obviously he does not appreciate sexuality much making statements like this. why doesnt he help clean up if he feels that bothered by it? then he can have a great time with you. sounds like a real jerk.
2006-07-03 07:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by smiths j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You know what they say about women who use sex as an incentive? Why should it be different for men? I don't think so!!!
2006-07-01 21:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋