on my birthday I truelly thinks that he needs to be a little romantic, how should i respond
2006-07-01 14:03:57 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Break up. Obviously he's only trying to get into your pants.
I agree that he should do something romantic. However at this point if he's romantic is a ploy to get into your pants.
Don't be in denial. See him for the snake he is and find someone else.
Seriously, do you think you'll be with this guy forever? If not, then I wouldn't do it.
Sounds like he's an *** if he knows you don't want to and is forcing you to.
Go talk to your parents and see what they say about all of this. I assure you that your mom and dad have your best intrest at heart. (And if you don't want to talk to them that's b/c you already know what the 'right' answer is.)
Break up with him and find a NICE guy.
Good Luck and Happy Birthday!
-One last thought- If I recall correctly, real men/ Nice guys, don't ask women to do it. This should be an indicator, if this jackass is flat out asking you for sex, he's not a good guy. I'd say, "You know, there's no real commitment here. We probably won't be together forever. However, since you've proven yourself to be such a lowlife, I'm going to start dating other people"
2006-07-01 14:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its YOUR body, YOUR Birthday, YOUR life. YOU control it. Tell him no. You are always worth more than any man.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition
or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly
happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't
stay because you think "it will get better."
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not
better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...
compromise is two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complementary... not supplementary.
Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where You are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other women and men (just so they know)... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her/his choices, and another woman prepare, and a man aware.
Being too nice will get you nowhere.
2006-07-01 21:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by sasperilla23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of other men in the world who will wine you, dine you...and go do whatever you want...only to "make love" (notice I say love) after all is said and done.
Or not. If you had a great night with your lover...who says it has to end...or begin and end in your boyfriends case...with getting laid?
Look....if you're looking for romance, don't be so quick to get into bed with a guy. Chances are you're being used. Insist on doing something YOU want do really do with him. Watch his reaction and if he agrees to go with you...see if he enjoys not just himself but your company. Now...this has to be done alone. Just the two of you. Try dinner and a movie...something intimate.
Oh..yeah...a gift? Or just him hovering over you before he plunges in?
You get my drift hun? You have to bring him to task. Love is serious and a two way street. Listen to me and hold your ground.
If he bails...screw him. You can do alot better!
2006-07-01 21:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why give him the cake and the presents? Its not his birthday.... He neither loves you nor respects you. He is out for his own interests. Dump him and find a real man who will love you enough to respect you on your special day. Love waits. Love is patient. Love considers others more than himself. Love is not selfish. Love is kind. I don't see him loving you... He's just lusting after you honey.... Why buy the cow when the milk is free? No commitment here.
2006-07-01 21:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by rejoiceinthelord 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything you don't want-especially if you are young. Try hinting to things, like a romantic dinner or something. If he doesn't get the hint or is still pressuring you, he wasn't with you to love you in the beginning.
2006-07-01 21:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should really ask your self if u are ready for that kind of commitment if your nit than ask him if he can wait a while cause you need top be ready and safe and think about it what is your idea about "a little romantic"
see ya
2006-07-01 21:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to sleep with you and he'll charm you up to get what he wants, if you think that having sex is something that is 'sacred' then break-up, he won't ever love you if he gets what he wants, better to make him want it then give it to him and have him dump you for giving him what he wants.
2006-07-01 21:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by dageddesigns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready then tell him you don´t want.And if he gets mad brake up with him fast.And if he brakes up with you because you don´t want to then let him go.He is not good enough for you.Don´t do it just because he says he is going to brake up.And if he understands then that is great.
2006-07-01 21:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by christiana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him and let him know how you feel and if he is upset then sorry sister sorry to tell you this but he needs to learn to restect you and what you want or you need to dump him....
2006-07-01 21:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by Chelsea H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're not ready, but if he wants, he can have sex with someone called "koolbreeze" from Yahoo Answers.
2006-07-01 21:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by koolbreeze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋