2006-07-01 13:55:53 · 24 answers · asked by T.C. 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
because the kids are still babies to the parents no matter how old they are even when you're 50 you're seen as a kid.
2006-07-01 13:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they know that marriage is a big step and the fact that you love each other has little to do with marital happiness. Also they may see something in your lover that because you love him blinds you and keep you from noticing it. Successful marriages (ones that last through years of giving and taking) requires maturity, foresight, fortitude, honesty and the ability to be fair to name a few. You may have noticed that love was not in that group.
Of course love is very important. But it is because of the love that makes the problems and differences so hard to overcome.
The best advice I can give is to really look at your self..and your prospective spouse and sit down and go over any, every and all points of interest. Make sure you know what you want and what you are able and/or willing to give.
Take your time...don't rush! Don't let sex be the defining answer.
2006-07-01 14:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are not sure you are ready for that and all they are trying to do is protect you. This usually happens when the child still lives with them, is still going to school or does not have a "good" job, they also get upset if the husband/wife to be is a no good lazy bum/bummette. Cuz Love can't pay bills, love can't buy food and love can't buy happiness and parents know this, all they want is for the child to be ready, that's all even if they probably weren't ready themselves.
2006-07-01 14:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by dageddesigns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the rest of the answers on here..Parents want to make sure their child are making the right decision.No parent does not want to see their child fail at anything especially something that is going to be a lifelong commitment.
I got married this year to my husband and I know his mother wasn't too fond of me when we started dating.Although we live 5 miles apart from each other;She basically told him if this is what you want,I respect your desicion and she has not tried to step in .Right before we got married,I had a gut feeling his mother thought he could've done better but he chose me to be with for the rest of his life.As for my mother,She told me it was my life and I choose how I live it.She had approved of my husband before her passing.That is a treasure I will always carry.
I respect my mother in law fully and she respects me..In the end, all works out. It takes a while for parents to "approve" their spouses..
2006-07-01 17:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by wsm0628 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are anxious that you might love the "wrong" person, which is anyone from a different background who was raised differently, which is to say, from a different class.
Marry someone from a higher class and they may "lose" you to these snooty, stuck-up strangers. Marry someone from a lower class and you're rebelling and insulting them --and they've wasted their time raising you!
So it's a big ego thing, a report card of them as parents, as to who you select as your marriage partner.
2006-07-01 14:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're young then it's because they don't think that you're ready for marriage. You have to reach a certain maturity before you're ready to be married. Marriage isn't a game, it's not playing house, it's for real, so some parents don't want their children to jump into something when they aren't ready for it.
2006-07-01 13:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents feel that you are always there baby no matter what age you are. My father raised my that I can never have a boyfriend if he isn't a man like him. So growing up I never introduced him to my boyfriends, But My mom and aunt s did. I didn't introduce my father to my husband until after we got married. He know calls him his son and is so happy for me. My husband actually worked with my father and my two uncles. I believe that is what made him except him more.So basically have you parents do things with you and your fiancee' { Boyfriend}. They should open up after a while.
2006-07-01 18:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case, they felt I was so young and had my whole life ahead of me and I shouldn't rush into marraige as soon as I got out of school. They probably just don't want you to grow up so quick. Or maybe they don't think he is the right guy for you, which is not really their decision anyway. Do what you feel is right. They will learn to love him too and if it is really love it will last. Good luck.
2006-07-01 16:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on his background for one. If he don't like working, how can he support you and himself? We are not to be idle but busy working.
It take 2 people to make a marriage work and most of all, Christ needs to be kept in the midst of the marriage and all you do.
2006-07-01 13:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by happysissa2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are scared that they will see less of you. Also, they don't like to see you grow up too fast or make a wrong decision. They think if you make no decisions, you will make no mistakes and then you will never get hurt. But sometimes getting hurt is a part of life.
2006-07-01 14:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by Tammy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just trying to show concern for your future and want you to be very happy and make the right choice. They're like control freaks lol
2006-07-01 15:10:10 · answer #11 · answered by shizzlechit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋