what do u do to boosts ur friends self-esteem. because i have friends that think they are ugly and fat and stupid. and they truly believe they are. so how do i help them with that.
2006-07-01 13:43:52 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
you gotta blame the people that tell them that. your friend is almost to blame for beleiving that too because well, they are actually believing in that crap. i have friends that think too highly of themselves, lol complete opposites. just tell them, if they werent the way they are now, you guys probably wouldnt even know each other. if the person really is fat and then one day some how got really skinny, that person would probably get full of themselves too and you guys would probably wouldnt evern know each other anymore. just tell that person that they are perfect the way they are
2006-07-05 05:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by sesso*E 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, just tell them that they aren't ugly and fat and stupid. also, i'm assuming that from your picture you're a male and that your friends are also male, so i suppose that you should maybe make a few female friends who hangs out with all of you. that way, your friends are motivated to have higher self-esteem to attract the females. don't try to steal the females from them either, or they will become depressed and lose self-esteem. if you are girls, then do the same thing except with males. if all else fails, introduce your friends to one man/woman who definitely seems more ugly, fat, and stupid than them, and tell them that at least they do not fall in this person's category. even though it sacrifices that person's self-esteem for your friend's, it is one of your last legal options. you can also make yourself very ugly, fat, and stupid, so that if your friends really are at such low levels, you may fit in. but i'm sure that's not the case, so just encourage them, and with the right mentality, they will overcome various challenges and prove that their previously low self-esteem was unfounded! the hero strikes again!
2006-07-01 13:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Hero 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are truly ugly, fat and stupid, you must help them become well groomed, healthier, and smarter. If those things are truly not the issue, then you and your friends can engage in positive activities such as volunteering to help the elderly or doing something nice for someone else. Doing good works and being positive is what builds self-esteem. You can help with that.
2006-07-01 13:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I swear, some people are just plain rude! It is too bad that your friends are feeling this way, and i bet it sucks on your part because you feel that there is nothing that you can do to help them out. I think its sweet of you to at least try and do something for them....there could be reasons why they are feeling depressed and beating their self up. Maybe you should talk to them about seeking professional help so they can have someone to discuss these feelings with. Or maybe you all can get a YMCA membership and do activities together. the y normally has some type of event going on. well good luck to you and your buddies -take care *smile*
2006-07-01 13:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by Smile_itsanewday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should keep in the back of your mind that they need extra reassurance. When you are doing something, like playing video games, tell them how good they are doing instead of criticizing them. Also, do they know they have a great friend like you? Let them know that you would not be their friend if they were a bad person. Just try to keep them busy and don't leave them out of anything if you can. It's easy to ditch a friend if they get depressed but it's also easy to help that friend. Good luck and best wishes to you and your friends!
2006-07-01 13:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for them is to compliment them and love them. Somehow you need to convey that you are TRULY their friend and that they mean something to you. When people see that there is someone that really cares they learn to like themselves, also, getting involved in service for other people can help them learn to stop focusing on themselves and think about others around them.
2006-07-01 13:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by keb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you continue to compliment them...like talk about things that have happened were they were smart...then tell them how much you'd love to have their looks because of how beautiful they are. Lastly if they aren't fat then it's easy to point that out but if they really are....well then point out atleast you don't weigh 1,000 pounds like the guy on tv. Actually I don't think your fat at all....I think your a pretty (girl or boy)....
2006-07-01 13:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by Antonio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have friends like that too, and it bugs me that they think that when its not true. i think the only way their going to feel different is if they realize that everone has something wrong with them. no is perfect, and looks are not everything. get dressed up for an evening and take them out for good time with a group of people, i think that way they'll see that others care about them no matter how they look.
2006-07-01 13:48:34 · answer #8 · answered by icechick83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are not, you should be able to show them they are not. Give them praise and make sure they get praise from others. Challenge them to use the attributes they don't think they have
If they are (because sometimes you have to face the facts) then try to avoid the subject.
2006-07-01 13:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by DonSoze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self esteem is a delusion, self actualization is the key, to set goals and acomplish them, not just foster a sense of being good enough right now.
2006-07-01 13:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by marduk D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋