What are signs to watch for if your spouse in my case (wife) is having an online relationship?

Question

I am worried about my wife since we got our computer. She stays up all night and when she gets out of bed she is right back at it. (the computer) I am a truck driver and work 16hrs a day so I dont know what goes on when I am gone. well I almost only know what happens on the weekends since I am almost only home to sleep.
Should I continue to trust her or should I be watching over her shoulder all the time?

well a few weeks ago there was a man called from new york and asked for her but she said she had no idea who he was then abouth three days ago i found a piece of paper in my 3 year olds top dresser drawer with a phone number and an address from new york. I dont think my daughter has ever been there. her best accomplesment so far is using the big potty. But my wife still dont know where it came from

Answer 1

Women often use the internet to forge close relationships. Especially because you are not home or are inaccessible due to your job, she will look for connection with people online -- both men and women. Being a mom and being alone and maintaining a home is a lot of lonely stress. Don't be surprised if she seems to be fixated on the computer, even healthy women would gravitate towards it.

Instead of blindly trusting her or otherwise scrutinzing her like a hawk, you need to have a deeper talk. You need to ask her how she's doing being alone most of the time and express regret that you are not there, and work with her to see if there's a way to fix things or rearrange your schedules. Even the idea that you WANT to spend more time with her will help.

Sure, there's the possibility that this guy's number is part of a relationship she might be having. Possibly it's not even "carnal" but simply purely emotional -- he is around, she needs someone to talk to, he's accessible and seems to care about her. What woman wouldn't be tempted to go for that, in the face of being alone otherwise?

You need to step into that problem and discuss it directly with her, and work on ways to fix it. If you guys can be open about the stresses on both of you, that will be a good start. Where you go afterwards is up to you and what you are both willing to compromise on, in terms of career and such.

Answer 2

Well was she acting suspicious before the computer and also are you guys having any problems, i.e closeness, communication and so forth.... the only reason you should think your wife is cheating is if she starts to pull away from you, if it's not typical behavior it does sound like she is doing something online if she is spending all her time on it... maybe you should check the files or history to see what she is doing when she isnt around or when you find an opportune moment... if she wont tell you then you have a right to know and when you find out, if you do, then you confront her about it and have the proof and dont assume anything until you have proof... take it step by step but do it the right way.. I wish you all the best of luck, take care and God Bless

Answer 3

My significant other done the same thing. He swore up and down that he wasn't doing anything. But Thur time I didn't trust him, due to the fact how he acted and spoke. So one week I decided to go out of town to visit family, and he seemed very happy about it. But what he didn't realize I had set the computer settings to record all record of where he went on line and who he talked too, and even went to the extent of recording all conversations, typing and speaking. When I returned home at the end of the week, I had enough evidence to confront him. Woman or man, if you think something fishy is going on, best to have the proof to confront them, because if you don't, they can always say you are just taking things the wrong way.

Answer 4

There is nothing worse than having to live your life looking over someones shoulders, the truth is that if she is doing something you will find out sooner or later, i learned there is absolutely nothing you can do to stop someone from making mistakes like that, just try to be there for her and tell her it worries you the way she stays in the computer all the time and then trust her, lets be real she is at home.

Answer 5

First why don't you trust her? Did she do something, cheat, in the past. Just because she is always on the computer does not mean she is cheating. Have you ever gone to the "History" of your computer to see what sites she's on. It's in the top tool bar - looks like a clock. That could answer your questions.

Answer 6

sorry to tell you this but I think you're wife is bored ! you'r not spending enough time with her, so she might be looking for somebody to talk to ! I had the same problem with my wife and I had a long and intensive talk with her and I found out that I was not paying attention to her problems so she went online to find some one to talk to !!!!So my advice to you is spend more time with you'r wife and TALK TO HER!!!!!!!!That's what saved me from a devorce. I wish you luck and hope i could help you!

Answer 7

sumthing's up n u better find out what it is....ii think u shud put a key logger on the computer n check everything that is being typed....it usually comez with a hidden file which she wont find n only u know where its hidden.......it shows u every letter that was typed n wutever canversation she had with a person....

Answer 8

Just install a spyware programe onto your computer. It will tell you every site she went to, and other stuff

Answer 9

if you got to watch her, then you already got trouble.you got a few options, you can buy spy wear, that will tell you what she is doin when your gone, its sneaky but it worked, just be careful, you ask for the truth, but you might not like it