we've been going out for over a year now. we've been really close friends for over two years now. in the last 3 months we have got really close because she lives in the same city as me instead of a hour away. we never fight even though my friends said the fights will start after 6 months. we have arguments but who doesnt, there not the type of arguments where we swear at each other. we're really close we're best friends do everything together. the reason im asking this question is because it is getting harder and harder for us to stay away from each other. i mean we start to get teary eyed when we have to be away from each other for a week because she goes back home to see her parents. what do you guys think? i know she is the one. i know we're going to get married. me and her always talk about it. shes basically got the whole wedding planned out.
2006-07-01 13:40:21 · 8 answers · asked by goliathrox 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we've been going out for over a year now. we've been really close friends for over two years now. in the last 3 months we have got really close because she lives in the same city as me instead of a hour away. we never fight even though my friends said the fights will start after 6 months. we have arguments but who doesnt, there not the type of arguments where we swear at each other. we're really close we're best friends do everything together. the reason im asking this question is because it is getting harder and harder for us to stay away from each other. i mean we start to get teary eyed when we have to be away from each other for a week because she goes back home to see her parents. what do you guys think? i know she is the one. i know we're going to get married. me and her always talk about it. shes basically got the whole wedding planned out. but thing is we're both still in school don't have a stable job yet. so maybe its not the right time. we both got like 3 to 4 yearsofskotogo
2006-07-01 13:46:46 · update #1
her mom has also said that we have to wait atleast 3 years:P so maybe that matters aswell
2006-07-01 13:47:28 · update #2
Well, you are definitely in a good way here -- you've been good friends for two years, you've dated for over a year, and she finally lives nearby so you can actually see each other regularly.
(Long-distance relationships are hard because you don't see each other enough to work through issues together and see how the other acts -- and then when you marry, you could find yourself surprised.)
Every couple does fight -- some alot, some little. So, yes, you will have your share of arguments about how to spend time and money, where to go when, what jobs you should have, kids, and like... but conflict is not bad in itself, it is how you both deal with it that counts. Having a secure friendship established as you do now is one positive sign, and it sound like you still respect each other even when you disagree. Never stop doing that.
If you want to ask her, I would secretly ask her parents and see what they think. See if there are any reservations they might have, or reasons to postpone a marriage. They're obviously more experienced (as are your own parents) and can be the source of good advice.
Remember that an engagement is actually a period of time where you plan to get married but are not yet committing to the marriage. It's okay to be really serious and become engaged even if you are still working some things out. It shouldn't be treated as being "already married," some engagements are postponed or cancelled. It sounds like you two are at the point where you could seriously be engaged.
You can also make your marriage date contingent on when you have a firm job and income. You don't need one yet, but should have one before the actual marriage.
Anyway, it's really only the right time when you decide it is. Now sounds like a real possibility. There are unknowns that we will never figure out ahead of time. From what I can tell, you both are heading in the right direction.
2006-07-01 14:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you guys dated other people? If not you may be making a mistake. I married my "true love" and "high school sweetheart". We never dated or "were with" anyone else. Eleven years later she has decided that she missed something in life and wants to prove that she can make it on her own (by on her own I mean with her new man friend from work). These revelations came after a lifetime of dreams, a new home, and a precious little girl. All I am trying to say is make sure you are ready, get some pre-marriage counseling. Good luck to you.
2006-07-01 14:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by Scott B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd say you are ready now! Just think of a sweet way to present the proposal and you are good to go!! Good Luck.......and hopefully congratulations!
2006-07-01 13:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by hotmama3712 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she has a relationship with her parents, be old fashioned and ask for their daughter's hand in marriage. THEN GO FOR IT!!!!
2006-07-01 13:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by dcbowls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that u already are. Just make sure when u do that it's perfect for her. ASK HER PARENTS FIRST! If she says no don't be mad. Be understanding her what she has to say. But goodluck to ya!
2006-07-01 13:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by duke baby! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are sure it is what you both want get engaged now and just have a long engagement...that everyone is happy:D
GOOD LUCK.
2006-07-01 17:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by ~Princess*Bonkers~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never have a guarantee, just ask!!
2006-07-01 13:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by Laurie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you're ready! ask her already.
2006-07-01 13:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by shellswong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋