i love sex, i never had a orgasmus i want to feel how other woman and man feel, i dont think i know how to do sex right, i feel like im not good enough for hubby, i dont wanna go on top cuz i think i cant do right, it doesnt do him any thing
2006-07-01 13:37:54 · 35 answers · asked by uwish u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i love to have sex and gosh it feel good with my hubby and i know he loves me but i wont come and thanks to ya out there i know what to do but still how can i do him right what do man want, he says he love sex with me but i feel like i dont do it right.
TO DA LADY SAYING IF I DONT DO IT SOMEONE WILL GET IT RIGHT DONT BE SMART WITH ME IM ASKING TO GET HELP IF I WANT SOMETHING SMART I COULD DO THAT MY SELF
2006-07-02 07:23:38 · update #1
Be adventurous and "go on top." You'll do fine. Allow your body to help you move. Your husband loves you, and you love him. Make love to him as best you can; the orgasm will follow.
2006-07-01 13:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by Mindee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Every male and female are different. There really isn't a right or wrong way to have sex. Some women actually would rather be on the bottom than on top. This might just be a phase. What you could do is take it slowly and try being on top. If he doesn't feel anything, then he should tell you what you could do to make him feel it.
2006-07-01 13:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by 12 Gauge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would experiment with your hubby. Figure out as a couple what you like. Ask him what he enjoys. See if different positions and maybe even oral sex helps to stimulate an orgasm. Remember that your husband loves you and is not grading you on your sexual performance. We all have off days sexually. The best way to feel more confident is to practice, practice, practice. Only do what you feel comfortable doing but I bet if you tried to overcome this fear you may find it very enjoyable. Maybe with open communication and support you both can increase the intenisity and satisfaction of your sex life.
2006-07-01 13:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by LyndeKC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to "educate" yourselves when it comes to your sexuality. What I mean by that is experiment with different positions and activities. A number of females cannot orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation, maybe an oral experience would be something you two might want to try. And there are a number of books available at your local Barnes and noble or even amazon.
The most important aspect of sex is communication. Don't be shy, talk about it, celebrate it. You are going to be together, hopefully, forever. Get comfy.
Good luck.
2006-07-01 13:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by Bruce B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Bruce B.
There is NOTHING wrong with you. Orgasms can be difficult to achieve and are both of your reponsibility......like sex in general. What the heck makes you think HE'S doing it "right" either?!
Sex gets better with practice. Sometimes it takes years in a relationship to achieve that perfect chemistry with each other. Liking sex like you do is a good beginning. Be willing to try different things.
Sex involves two people and should be done so that both people enjoy it.....so BOTH of you have to get better, not just you. You have nothing to feel bad about as far as your husband's pleasure goes. Keep communicating with each other in a setting that makes you comfortable.
2006-07-01 13:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there is nothing wrong with you...not all women are made the same...just remember that we are all different...Have you ever thought that maybe its not you....women usually have orgasms when the sex is just so damn good...you just well...climax (orgasm)...maybe he's not really trying or you're not...and there's no real way to do sex right...look at kama sutra...they do some weird ****...anyways...getting on top is very easy...the guy usually guide you the way he likes it anyway but...just talk to him and ask what he likes and u do what u like to make u have an orgasm
2006-07-01 13:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I'm not married and I'm the same way. I let him do everything most of the time. I've always had low self-esteem. It's something you're gonna have to get over. There are times where I just cry to him b/c I feel like he's not getting what he wants. He's very understanding. You got to let yourself lose. Experiment with different things. Don't be afraid...he's your husband..he loves you!
2006-07-01 13:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by duke baby! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down with him and talk to him about these problems. Ask him what he likes, and tell him what you like. I'm guessing you haven't been married very long....Does he not give you oral sex!? If not ask him to, and have an orgasm like that. Or try masterbation...if you don't know what you like, than it'll be harder for him to know. And as for being on top....it does take practice! You'll get better, and I'm sure he's not going to mind any way you do it!
2006-07-01 13:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah - first off you didn't spell orgasm correctly.
You have really low selfesteem.
You probably shouldn't have gotten married if you want to play around with other people.
You should at least attempt to be on top.
Who would want you if you're questioning yourself all the time?
I would say there's plenty wrong with you. Hope you don't loose your man to someone that knows how to work it.
Good Luck!
2006-07-01 13:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit worrying and just experiment with what you feel comfortable with. ask your hubby for help, ask him to talk dirty to you. if your not ready to go on top, its not the only position around that feels good, there are lots of positions. my husband never did it for me sexually, I usually try to imagine how I would really like to have sex, and I have discovered that I don't need him at all to have an orgasm.
2006-07-01 14:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋