He's been a bit cranky b/c he's having to work all by himself. His job ios constantly busy, constantly and he was being a bit pouty all day.
We are also in between moving and trying to get done as much as possible. He got a bit cranky and said, "But I work by myself tonight, I may be tired." I told him I understand he's working by himself but that's life and someone's gotta do the moving. I suggested when he gets home, I'll brew some coffee and we'll both move the bed, clean out, pack, etc. He got cocky and saluted me. That really upset me. I know he's tired but so am I, I work fulltime and I know this has got to be done.
Am I being too hard or is he being to sensitive or....something? What is it?
Thanks.
2006-07-01 13:31:15 · 14 answers · asked by fiestygirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thing is, its more a question of his character. He gets like this when anything gets hectic and stressful. As if he views life this way.
2006-07-01 13:41:07 · update #1
try to make him less stress...somehow..i don't know u have to find out for urself
2006-07-01 13:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anthony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like just total over load for the both of you.I am sure he didn't mean to offend you deep down and he is probably feeling that you are nagging him to get everything in order,when your not,you are just worrying about getting everything done and moved.Like you mentioned,you both are working and if he is working by himself,which can be totally draining,you might consider asking friends or family to pitch in to help you both out,which there would be nothing wrong with doing so.Coming at each other is not the answer,it's not going to get things packed and moved,so i would definitely consider asking for help to lighten the load for you both.If there is no one to ask,then slow down,ask for extra time if possible on getting out,due to yours and his work schedule and then things can work more smoothly and in a proper order.Try to get proper rest,then you both will see each other in a more respectful manner.Good Luck and Best wishes to you both!Hope i was able to shed some light your way!
2006-07-01 13:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like everyone at his job is telling him what to do, and now you are adding to it. I had a similar problem once, and what I did was this:
1. Chill. Get friendly.
2. Tell him, "I'm not trying to control you, you're not my slave or anything. I am simply saying that, if we work together on this, we can get it done sooner and everything will be better, and you'll have more time to get work done. Let's face it, leaving this undone is just going to give you more stress, and I know that stress is killing you. I care about you, and I want to work with you to make our life better - we're a team baby."
3. COFFEE!
2006-07-01 14:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots seems to be going on at the moment, working and moving with lil sleep and being overtired can cause irritability/crankiness. We all can get a lil cranky at one time or another. Just let him know, that when your all moved and things calm down, things will settle back down and back to normal..
2006-07-01 13:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by tiffani72kmg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you both are going through a very difficult stage but now is the time that you guys have to show that you are strong enough. Take a breather and have a relaxing night...pamper each other. I understand you have to get things done but all work and no play is boring. Give each other a break...and then talk about it. Hope all ends well.
2006-07-01 13:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are both under alot of stress. Can't you take just One night off or at least an hour just to spend time together just doing nothing? You need some 'down time' to be yourselves again. You're not being too h ard or sensitive. You're both just under stress. Next time he salutes you give him a one finger salute back LOL
2006-07-01 13:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red flag here. The problem will only get worse after the wedding. All relationships have problems and many learn to work them out. A good relationship should be happy and respectful. Also, make sure you both can laugh together....that is a green flag.
2006-07-01 13:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first hire some local teenage boys to help with the move and look out for the full moon. men get "cranky" during this time of the month. ask him to spend at least an hour helping each night and supervise the move. i would get hired help to make it easier on you since you know he does not want to help with the move.
2006-07-01 13:37:38 · answer #8 · answered by montanamom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nudity always makes a man pay attention. Start packing to move in the nude, it will get his attention. I've moved twice and heard similar complaints but he will follow. And don't forget to reward him after he's helped, but only after wards (or he may just fall asleep and do nothing.) It may make your move fun, instead of a chore.
2006-07-01 14:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by Jo P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no! deff dont keep asking what's faulty. i comprehend distinct men who tell me that there females try this and it in straight forward words makes it worse. do not keep asking him once is sufficient. try asking him yet another day if he needs to discuss it even as he has "cooled down"
2016-11-30 03:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by helmers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is that cranky , then lay off him.
Do you have to do it all in one day?
2006-07-01 13:38:39 · answer #11 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋