My in-laws are insane! They have never liked me, They find me overall offensive and when I stay quiet they find that offensive! I have even tried being carefull of what I say in front of them and they find that offensive too. Then when I confronted them about their problems with me, they told me that they just want me to be myself. (but thats offensive) My mother in-law has even attacked me when I walked away from her cussing at me, and I was 9 months pregnant. What should I do in order to get along with them?
2006-07-01 13:30:29 · 15 answers · asked by Krysta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lt sounds like you are a good person. I would advise that you stay away from them. Your husband should understand and respect your feelings. Let him be free to see his family but don't let them visit you unless they can be civil. You wouldn't want your child to be exposed to that if you don't want to be around it yourself. We tend to blame ourselves but we can we right. p.s. my inlaws doen't care for me either....what ya gonna do...lol
2006-07-01 13:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you say "attacked" do you literally mean physically attacked? If so, pregnant or not that is just very unacceptable as far as I'm concerned. And being pregnant makes it so inhumane that it disgusts me and I don't even know you. Does your husband know about the attack? If he does know, and if it was physical, he is not a very good husband if he didn't take care of that problem then and there. (I was gonna say he is a pu$$y, but I didnt want you to track me down and beat my a$$) Ok, and if it wasn't physical, and if he didn't fix that the best he could or at least try then he is not doing his job. All in all I don't think that there is anything to do in order to get along with your out-laws. Do you even want to at this point? There is no law that I know of. However if you wish to try and get along with these fanatics, you can possibly use your baby against them and you know, refuse to let them see the bundle of joy if they continue to act uncivilized towards you, and soon they will see the errors in their ways. You are a much better person than I am, cause I doubt if I would tolerate any non-sense from people like that. (smile)
2006-07-01 20:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your husband? How does he feel about all this? Maybe you can use him to calm things down a bit between all of you.
If you love your husband, you're gonna have to deal with the in-laws. Just try to be as pleasant as possible and make her look like the *****.
2006-07-01 20:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the movie Monster in Law. Watch it, then give her a taste of her own medicine.
If you cant do that , you will have a good laugh.
2006-07-01 20:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are misable and they want other people missable too the best way to get along with them os stay away from them and tell your husband yhat your tired of them abusing you and treatting you like dirt
2006-07-01 20:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absoutly nothing. stay away from them. all of this stuff is bad for you and the baby. where does your husband fit in this equation? does he side with you or his parents. tell them if they cntinue to treat you like that they will not see their grandchild because you dont want your child in the negative environment they create...
2006-07-01 20:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be non-confrontational...wastes too much of your energy
let them be difficult but don't be difficult back to them...hard to do but why be part of the problem. let them find fault in you...who cares...when they act like that then it is obvious the problem is with them...don't participate in their "and I don't like you" drama...that will steal their obsession with being negative...be the better person even if they don't like you...your husband LOVES you and that is better anyway
2006-07-01 20:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have to chalk it up to thier ignorance. sounds like if you gave them a gold-plated pee-pot, it wouldn't be good enough. just do the best you can. tell them "you have two ends-a head and a tail. one you think with, the other you sit on. it is important you figure out which is which."
2006-07-01 20:40:52 · answer #8 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and whenever they say something mean or rude to you just complement them and walk away. that's what I do to my in laws and they still don't really like me but t really pisses them off that it don't bother me
2006-07-01 21:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by COREY H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from them cause there is no fixin this situation, she attacked you when you were pregnant, i would have told her to go to hell and she would have never laid eyes on my kid til she learned to respect me, she dont got to like me, cause i bet the first time you kid come home from grandmas saying "grandma said this about you mommy"you will snap
2006-07-01 20:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋