I'm an 18 year old guy in california and I have trouble with finding good gay guys. Yeah, I can find the slutty ones that only want sex. But I don't know where to find one that isnt to promiscuous or so superficial. I tried to go to this gay youth center in my town because thats where someone suggested. AIt was just a bunch of 14-16 year old obnoxious kidswho think they're so cool because they watch gay porn.
I just can't seem to find any normal guys who just happen to be gay too, expecially with no gaydar whatsoever! So do any of you guys have suggestions?
2006-07-01 13:24:13 · 5 answers · asked by StreetFighterKid 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm an 18 year old guy in california and I have trouble with finding good gay guys. Yeah, I can find the slutty ones that only want sex. But I don't know where to find one that isnt to promiscuous or so superficial. I tried to go to this gay youth center in my town because thats where someone suggested. AIt was just a bunch of 14-16 year old obnoxious kidswho think they're so cool because they watch gay porn.
I just can't seem to find any normal guys who just happen to be gay too, expecially with no gaydar whatsoever! Like I worked with this guy for a few months and I didn't know he was gay until someone else told me. But yeah, I'm looking for an actual relationship. So do any of you guys have suggestions?
2006-07-01 13:46:38 · update #1
Be patient. There are good gay guys out there. As long as you know what you want, and as long as you remain confident safe in the knowledge that there are good gay guys out there. If only because there's you, and where there's one there's always more.
But, stuff like this doesn't work to schedule. So, in the meantime, have some fun. Learn to cook, or go to the beach, or whatever else it is that people in california do for fun. You will get to fall magically and terrifyingly in love, and out again. And back in. It'll be great.
2006-07-01 13:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by kingchaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You think you have it bad in CA? Try living in WV! Even this far north in the state a lot of people are closeted because of intolerance. It seems most of the out guys are out because they couldn't hide it if they wanted to :D
Try to find other gay hot spots. Go to gay clubs with friends if you can't find any other places. I've noticed that a lot at clubs tend to be superficial and looking for a way to get off, but there are also some really cool ones too. If that's the only place gays congregate then some nice ones are gonna be there looking too.
I really advocate giving personals sites a try. You're likely to meet a bunch of weirdos and dirty old men, but not all will be. I met two of my three best friends through the internet. I also met a friend who introduced me to my first love :-)
Gay.com has a lot of sketchy people hanging around mixed in with the cool ones. Planetout.com doesn't have quite as many guys. XY.com is a great one to meet younger guys in their late teens/early twenties. A friend of mine runs Scene404.com. It's a site focused on meeting guys based on their interests and personalities, not whether they have an amazing body. Not a lot of people on there yet. There's also Match.com and Yahoo Personals, although I'm not fond of either.
Most importantly, try to meet new people through friends. A few years ago I met my roommate's friend. I became friends with him and met many of his friends who are gay. Within a few weeks I went from knowing 2 gay people to knowing 15-20.
Good luck :)
2006-07-01 15:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well are you trying to say that you actually want a relationship instead of just sex ? In that case I'm totally agree with you and thanks for thinking that way. A relationship is way more meaningful and beautiful. Perhaps you can go for the online matching services available and see what they can do for you. Perhaps you can go around your living area or town nearby to see if there are any places that you can try your luck. There're always someone special waiting for you, trust me on that ok ? And if you don't mind, I can be your friend as I'm attracted to guys but i never think of just bed them or things like that. I go for true relationships too. :O)
2006-07-01 13:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by imconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish i could help, but i'm all tha way in indiana. i'm a coo gay.well atleast everybody says i am
2006-07-03 04:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by insomuchshit54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time to find the right one.....just don't let your own desperation get the best of you...
2006-07-01 14:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋