I left home at an early age of 16. left my hometown goodbye.
3 years later i return (and i should say theres was no contact with parents of friends)...... nothing is the same?!?!? it seems like everone and thier mothers have turned thier backs on me.
I find myself in situation where i cant say anything, but people are talking to me!!!
2006-07-01 13:00:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I kind of did the same thing as soon as I was 18. Family and friends were probably missed you when you left, and maybe a little hurt. Was it on bad terms that you left? The only real way to repair your relationships is time. Spend time with them, get to know one another again. The good thing about family is they will always be family no matter what. Friends change a lot in three years, especially teen-age years. If they've really turned their backs on you then they're not worth having around in the first place. Good luck!
2006-07-01 13:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you leave at 16? Where you abused or in danger? Or just teenage rebellion? If there was abuse, I would probably advise to stay away. Otherwise, How can you expect things to remain the same? You said there was no contact for three years? Even if you had called and then returned, things would have changed. Life goes on whether you're there or not. And I'm sure there's also anger and resentment on both your parts. IF you really want to rebuild those relationships it will be a long and bumpy road. But having been there, it is possible. You have to be willing to hear the negative and not just the positive. Figure out how important these people are to you. And know that a lot of bridges were burnt, so it'll take time to rebuild.
2006-07-01 13:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by ShellRe' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you leave on good or bad terms? This could explain everyone's cold attitude toward you. Did you "abandon" your family and friends? Or were you just being rebellious? Either way, they are adults and should know that people make mistakes. They should forgive you if you are genuinely willing to be a part of their lives again. If not, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it, your family may come around someday. As for friends, in situations like this, you find out who really is a "true" friend; and they may accept you back into their lives again. Good luck!
2006-07-01 13:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that your life has changed for the better...If your family does not want to talk to you maybe you are better off...As far as your so called friends they were not because they would of stayed in contact with you or would of met you again with open arms...But never give up totally on your family yet...Try to make things work...If not maybe you should leave for another 3 years....
2006-07-01 13:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by newyorkcitypimp1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only thing I see is to: go live another place since you cant seem to live in your hometown.
some towns remember everything, so might be best for you to go live your life in another place.
if i knew I wasnt wanted where I live then i would leave.
2006-07-01 13:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are upset that you up and ditched them? Theyre only returning the favor.
2006-07-01 13:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by Legend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you left with a poor reputation at a younger age and people still remember that....Go to people and let them see you have changed if you have...If you haven't, you need to...
2006-07-01 13:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by Stars-Moon-Sun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you turned you back on them first, other than that i don't really know what you are trying to say.
2006-07-01 13:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will be a tough thing to do, but you must earn their trust again.
2006-07-01 13:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them and make new friends
2006-07-01 13:05:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋