Be honest and keep it simple! Let me know some ways for a husband to get more from his wifey?
2006-07-01 12:49:19 · 18 answers · asked by Shawn J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Treat her like a queen, compliment her, make things romantic. Win her mind than you get her body later.
2006-07-01 12:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hi Shawn. From experience, I might be able to guess that if your wife is less interested than she used to be, she may be feeling lousy about herself right now. It might help if you let her know how sexy you think she is regardless of her weight (to a reasonable point, I know, I know...), her stress level at work or at home, the zit on her chin, or whenever the last time she shaved her legs. Girls think about tons of stupid stuff that make them feel not-so-sexy. Help her with the things she's stressed about. Wash your own ishes and clean up your own messes at home if you don't already. Maybe give her a sponge bath or a massage. Try offering to shave her legs and paint her toenails. (That is so cute when guys do that.) Do some vigorous exercise together, as excercise is a great stimulant to the sex drive! Take her out on a dates... You remember dates, right? You know, dinner, drinks, dancing? Go to a fun adult store with her afterwards and pick up some new toys. It will probably be uncomfortable at first, but then she'll start to giggle and think "what if?" Take her lingere shopping sometime. Make her try the stuff on for you. (Some lingere stores will even let the guy in the dressing room as long as you don't make a big scene or a lot of noise. ) Do little random things to let her know that you're attracted to her. Leave her a sexy note in her purse that she might find when she least expects it. Take a secret picture of yourself on her cellphone and make it be the first thing she ses when she turns the phone on. (Is that the desktop? screensaver? I'm lousy with cellphones.) Be creative. Be sensitive to why she may be holding back. Talk to her about it if these little things don't spice things up. And be reasonable. Most women don't want to have sex more than once a day. And for some, even once a day is way too much. You might find that her libido is very different from yours, and that can be a problem that takes more to work out.
2006-07-01 20:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by Vet Tech Steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make sure she's physically ok. Have a conversation that you find her desirable and want more private time with her. Then,the more you do for her the more she'll want to reciprocate in kind. If her day is stressed, help out with the chores, dishes, laundry, cooking etc. (Just don't do it one time with the expectation of sex. We see that coming and it's a turn off) Also keep in mind we like to be romanced. After the wedding men just stop the romance. Like leaving little love notes on the frig, on her car, etc, or calling for no reason in the middle of the day just to say you were thinking about her. Instead of coming home at the end of the day, grabbing her and saying something like "You ready? Let's do it" (YUK) And after a time when she's more "in the mood" take your time...make sure she's happy and satisfied FIRST...and the rewards will be worth it. Slow and easy. Pretend you're not married and are trying to win her affection and trust.
If you truly love and respect your wife, you'll do your best to make sure she's happy. When Mamma's happy, everyones happy!
2006-07-01 20:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by ShellRe' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you may not want to hear this, but I think you should ignore her. When you come home from work or whatever just act like your in a good mood or somebody else made your day and...just ignore her!! She will start to wonder "why the hell is he sooo happy". The more you beg the worse it may get. Apparently she enjoys watching you beg or go without (sex). She gets more pleasure out of seeing you upset about it!! That she would rather not give you none...crazy huh!! Now I trust you won't do anything like cheat, cuz that is bad!! But just remind her that she isn't the only female in the world!! You don't have to mean or rude to her, just act like you can be in a "Great Mood" without her and suddenly she will be drawn to you!!
Good Luck!!!
2006-07-02 03:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by AAP0305 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romance. For women this is a more emotional experience. Compliment her and flirt with her throughout the day. Teasing touching here and there throughout the day - but nothing vulgar or overly sexual just holding hands, brushing her hair out of her face. More forplay. Ease her stress by helping her with her chores, draw her a bubble bath with candles and soft music, wash her, then massage her with lotion. Why not ask her what would make her feel more attractive, less tired, turn her on? Whatever it is different for everyone.
2006-07-02 00:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to her, if done that.
then try to be sensitive to what she is doing all day--she might be tired.
if she is tired, try to do some of the work for her, and let her take a shower or relax a little to get in the mood
takes women awhile to get in the mood.
her sex drive might be low, so might take awhile more to get her interested.
try to be supportive and take some of the load of household running. give her time to be herself. and dont keep asking her if she is in the mood.
maybe give her neck or back massage, get some quiet time just the 2 of you.
2006-07-01 20:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by helping her around the house more so that she will have the energy to have sex at all. You could treat her as an equal and you would get more from her.
2006-07-01 19:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put Axe all over ! this is a perfume that makes the women crazzy! Or make her a candel light dinner and try to get her into it! And if she steel doesnt want to then ur on ur own! she must be harsh on u!
2006-07-01 19:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by bball lover! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question, my wife is a dead fish when it comes to sex, if i don't start something, i'd go without sex forever
2006-07-01 19:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband does the dishes for me and helps me with the housework! That turns me on!! What a sweetheart he is!
2006-07-01 19:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋