My husband and are not sexually compatible, any suggestions?

Question

He is timid. I am not. I can't get him to take charge or make a move.

We only made love a few times before we were married.

Answer 1

Send him to school.

Men need to learn "How to take charge!"

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Great Sex for married couples ONLY.

Answer 2

Hello Rhiannon, try this, invite him out to dinner, wear something that you know he finds you very sexy in. Once there get him to relax and stay positive! Keep the conversation sexy and positive. Tell him things that you want him to do with you!
On the way home, at each stop sign or stop light, kiss him and touch him! Once home, tell him that you want him to remove all of your clothes. Now that he has done this, lay on the bed and watch him undress before laying with you and doing some of the things you discussed at dinner!
Another option is fantasy role playing! Tell him that he is the principal and you are going to be the naughty student. Go out of the room and put on a short plaid skirt, your tallest heels and a blouse then walk in and ask him why you have been sent to the principals office. If he ist still not taking charge, lift your skirt and tell him that you are not going to be spanked! By daring him you may find the tiger in him coming out. Just make sure he spanks you playfully and have fun! Good luck

Answer 3

Hi Dear,

Build him up a lot. Don't demean or emasculate him in any way. Make him feel larger than life. Appeal to his ego and self esteem. Tell him how sharp he is, how desireable he is, what a great lover he is...... see him as the man he can be, not as he currently seems to be.

Play the sexually naive and submissive roll and do things that appear to have an aura of sexual naivete and inocence to them. Try a low cut blouse and push-up bra and reach across his path as he is seated on the couch and fumble with the lamp on his opposite side to dwell there a moment, with your jugs about 1 foot away from his face, fumbling with the lamp switch and shade. wear a short skirt with no panties and call him to the kitchen to help you get the roast out of the oven, and as he enters the room, bend low and raise your butt as you look into the oven, exposing your heart shaped bottom.

If all that doesn't catch his attention then try these methods at my house! LOL

Answer 4

Ask him what his fantasy is and make it come true . And try spicing things up like have sex somewhere else in the house or out somewhere, buy sexy little outfit and doing all his favorite things in bed, let him be on top try different sex position make him feel like he's the man. maybe that will help.
GOOD LUCK DON'T WAKE THE NEIGHBORS UP TONIGHT.

Answer 5

It's not fun always being the aggressor, but maybe he feels that it's not fun always being the persued. Can you talk to him about this? If not, then you two definitely need to see a marriage counselor. How long have you been married?

Answer 6

That doesn't make him sexually incompatible. It just means you have to work at that side of the relationship. My suggestion is make him feel comfortable....no strings attached and no pressure to perform a certain way for you.

Answer 7

unusual complaint-lol. if he is not "prepared", he must not have been a good boy scout. i was a boy scout until i got old enough to be a girl scout-lol. is he gay? if you are giving him clues and directions, he should be able to carry on with what turns you on. good luck babe!

Answer 8

then you do it, maybe you need to try different things, watch a movie,read a book, do something to get him into it.good luck.

Answer 9

Did you know this before you married?If not you should have.If so you fugged up.

Answer 10

same here sucks! wife is very plain in bed! find ways to satisfy yourself.... [e-mail]