I'm a 30 year old female married for 8yrs with 3 kids. My husband turned 34 on yesterday. For a while now he only concerns hisself with his kids and work. He doesn't even interact with me. It's like he is in a slump. He constantly lye on the sofa and watch TV. Just recently we went on vacation which was great. However, we came back home and back to the same ole same ole. What do I do?
2006-07-01 11:52:14 · 8 answers · asked by deedybug50 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what if he continues to say no??
2006-07-01 12:07:50 · update #1
Set up a babysitter for the evning Deedy and invite him out to dinner! Once there stay positive and talk about the things the two of you have done in the past. Talk about what you did when you first met, get him to open up. Afterwards, just enjoy each other and set more "date nights" together if you can.
It will give the two of you something to talk about and look forward to and he may just open up again and be that fun guy that you married! Good luck
2006-07-01 12:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In many ways this is typical of a man on a mission. Men are hunters and will concentrate on what they are doing to the detriment of their women companions. I sugges that you communicate with him and tell him that you need attention. Men do not need attention, but women do. It is a fact of life and many men are not aware of it. Men and women communicate differently. Since they have different approaches to life, they also have different "love languages." When you speak each other's "love language," you find yourselves filled with love, understanding, and fulfilment. I highly recommend that you get some counseling and get the book entitled "The five love languages" which has a pinkish cover and a heart shape on the front. It is very easy reading and only a few pages per day will do. I guarantee that you will see the difference promptly.
Your husband believes that he works hard and that's all that is needed, but he doesn't know how to catter to your needs. Educate yourselves and be happy. Your marriage comes FIRST, the children second, and family and friends third. In that order. Sex is also key. Take of your figure, your hygene, and your hair. Men love a fine fox!!! If you are not his fox, then who is?
Mr. M on husband, etc.
2006-07-01 12:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every week for three months pick out events from the Arts and Leisure Section. Have each thing you go on be TOTALLY different from the others. Mystery dinner, star gazing seminar, rafting, comedy club, play, concert, etc. He is in a slump, and maybe him wondering what next week will bring will snap him out of it.
Do this on top of Marriage Encounter weekends.
2006-07-01 13:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert but I think that if you make a compromise: tell him that you would try doing something he likes to do and that he would also do the same you might get an understanding of each other that you may not have had for awhile.
2006-07-01 12:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by cummjn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attend a marriage conference to rejuvinate your marriage.
your husband has forgotten about the first day he saw you.
Go on the "Weekend to Remember" marriage conference. You guys will have a blast and add some kick back into your marriage!
2006-07-01 11:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk to him tell him how you feel. tell him your feeling neglected. You want to spend time with him and do stuff maybe it'll get him out of his slump
2006-07-01 11:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by Big Buddha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This place is not for advertisements for marriage conferences!
2006-07-01 12:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thought you had a boyfriend who was ten years younger????????????
2006-07-05 17:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋