Are white men less confident or aggressive in approaching women than black men are?

Question

Black men hit on me frequently, but white men don't. Should I assume that white men aren't attracted to me? Or do you think there are cultural differences that make black men more comfortable approaching women? I'm white, by the way.

I don't think it's my location. There are more white than black people here, although it is a fairly diverse area.

I'm not "thick" by anyone's standards. I'm 5'4" and 105 lbs.

Answer 1

Being that I am drop dead sexy and have been approached by thousands of men (joking), I can say that black men are more aggressive in approaching women. They will walk right up to you and be like can I have your number. Without hearing you talk or learning anything from first impressions. Where as a white man, takes the time to talk to you for a few mins, then he will ask can I have your phone number.

But it's just seems like it's the majority of the black or white men that are this way but not all.
It doesn't matter their approach or race, I love all men. Even though I ignore you when your trying to get my number I still love ya.

Answer 2

Don't assume anything. People are people. If you meet someone your interested in try flirting a little and see what happens. Sometimes we put off signals that make us seem unapproachable without realizing it. If black men are the ones giving you attention then go out with him and try to have fun. I can't believe some of the ignorant racist answers that you got. I'm not black or white I'm native american. I would date a man from any race (If I weren't married lol) as long as they were respectful and I enjoyed there company.

Answer 3

I can think of a couple of states with those statistics that that phenomenon would work quite well.

It has nothing to do with the men...it's all about the women! For starters you've most likely been seen with black men more often than white. Hence...white men rationalize that you prefer black men to them. So why waste their time.

Black men rarely want big challenges out of women. Hence white women are compatible to that type of involvment.

White men are not intimidated so much by this as they are turned off by a white woman sleeping with a black man. They would more than likely opt out for a white woman that prefers white men. Or even venture to taste the black berry of the female persuasion...c'est au-tre chose?

Answer 4

Maybe you are sending out signals to black men that invite them to approach and you may not be sending those same signals out to white men. Do you normally date black men or white men? Maybe you've been labeled as a white woman who dates black men. Some white men may not want to come behind a black man. We still live in a racially charged world. I have met aggressive black men and subtle black men. They don't all fall into one category.

Answer 5

Statistics show that black men have more sexually active libidos than white men. Or maybe that white men don't think they should just approach every woman they see and try to hump them. Most not all but most black men have little or no respect for women so it makes it easier to approach a women and talk crap.

Answer 6

I feel that it depends on the guy. I woldn;t say that black or white guys have more confidence. I have seen both put their tails between thier legs at the sight of a woman. I do feel that more black now a days have a little more respect for treating a female than many white guys do although my hubby is white and he is the greatest!

Answer 7

Race has nothing to do with the way or the frequency of men hitting on you.

You are sending a signal to the man which is why he approaches you.

No, there are no cultural differences that would affect a man's approach to a woman as far as being comfortable is concerned.

Answer 8

In the past I was never approached by a Blackman, but now times have changed, and both Black and White men should feel free to be comfortable to approach you and try to get to know you.They both are equal and have the right to be able to ask you out.

PGBISME

Answer 9

In reality, the black men use more BS and jive. White men are more straight forward and honest.
In a recent survey at Northwestern University, the white male was more believable by almost 20%. Black men are found to talk louder with the more BS he delivers. So, loudness means BS. On the same token, white men who were found to possess a lot of bull, kept their loudness at an even pitch.
White men do not merely like to hit on a lady; they like to hit on a woman who is easy. Black men like to hit on all females. But, there are black men who are the exception, choosing to take the same approach as the white males. There are also whites who enjoy hitting on all women.
So blacks are actually more likely to hit on a female. But, whites are more confident.

Answer 10

I think you hit the nail on the head with that one. White men definitely seem less confident to me. They also don't like rejection. I'm white, and I frequently get hit on by black men, and usually in a nasty obnoxious way. White men tend to be more suttle and respectful. I've also noticed when I ignore a black mans rude or sexual comments they get angry. I don't understand this. If a black man hits on me in a respectful way, I can be respectful in return, but I'm not about to be nice when someone is yelling nasty comments to me in front of my kids. It's like "what is up people, what did I ever do to you"? Some blacks seem so hostile all the time, and that's no way to go through life!