I've been going out with my bf for over 5 years now and we are also engaged, I didnt think I could live without him, but lately I've been feeling differently about him, I am only 21 and he has been my only bf, I'll never have been out with anyone else if I marry him, and I cant help thinking we got engaged too early ( I was only 18) although we are not planning on getting married for a few years.
I've been thinking about talking 2 him about taking a break from our relationship, especially since I met another guy, (who I am just friends with), but we flirt and I feel something thats new and exciting,(I dont mean I really want to go out with) which its not like that anymore with my bf, & i cant help thinking it would be nice to have that with some1 again.
the thing is I do love my bf, and we are like best friends too, I dont know what to do, should I just stay with him andsee how things go, or take a break, which would break his heart I know :(
2006-07-01 11:48:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The question is: Do you want a break from him? Your on here asking other people, but do you really want a break from him? From what it seems like, your confused about your feelings for him and him in general. I think that you should take a break from him, for at least a week to basically think. Do you want to marry him? Think it over, let it dissolve in your mind. Because marriage is a really big step. Dating is one thing, but getting married is another. If you love him, make sure you love him enough to be married to him. Yall maybe best friends, but who said that we should be married to our best friends. Please rethink it over, or else you'll ruin what you two already have. Those few years will give you a chance to really think. You met another guy? so what if you have feelings for him? Please don't get into a relationship with this guy before closing the door with the guy that your engaged to. How would you feel if you were him?
2006-07-01 11:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say go with your heart. You were too young in making a commitment to marry at such a young age without playing all the fields first. you both need to see other people and see if the love you have for one another is really LOVE or just a best friend thing. There is a big difference you know. It might break his heart at first, but if he truly loves you, he will understand that "space" is important to you. I wouldn't suggest breaking it off with him and seeing another if you honestly want to be with him. That will only cause problems in your relationship down the road. Good Luck!
2006-07-01 11:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Stars-Moon-Sun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your infatuation with this other guy is normal especially seeing you are so young. Although don’t break p with your bf because you think there may have something with this other guy you WILL be disappointed five years is a long time to throw away on a crush. You’re being very sensible by waiting a few years to get married. Its very corny but rent out suddenly 30.
2006-07-01 11:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married to my first serious bf (although not my first bf--we met in high school) and things are going well. However, if you are thinking about taking a break, than you probably should since you're so young. You might regret it if you don't. If you guys truly love each other, you'll find your way back together somehow.
2006-07-01 11:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by lady butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are curious it is important that you tell your bf. I would take a break. You are to young and need more experience to know if you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy.
2006-07-01 11:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by themisslita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't accidentally lose what you already have. My parents got married junior year of college, and they've never dated anyone else. They're still together and happy many many years later. So, do what you think is right, but again... don't lose what you've worked so hard for on a whim.
2006-07-01 11:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Glenn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break from your guy, and date the other guy. You're TOO young to even think about settling for one guy right now.
2006-07-01 11:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u feel its what u need to do then do it. Its better to experience other people now before u go and get married.
2006-07-01 11:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu should probably give him a break. sind eyou only went out with him in your whole life you need to expierience more people b/c there might be better people out there than him and/or if you date some more people you might actually find out how great he is.
2006-07-01 11:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by The Notorious 1! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to take a break go for it
2006-07-01 12:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by stacey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋