As I mentioned before that my husband cheated by going on match.com then telephoning and dating them and telling me no sex at all.. When I found out he was sorry and said that he did not mean to hurt me ..and said that he meant it to be a short affair..nothing serious. What I knew from one of these women is that that he lied about me..that I we are living separately and that he is unhappy for some reasons....I felt reallt betrayed and until today I am not "normal" anymore...I feel depress, have a low self esteem especially he said that I have made him unhappy...I cannot get him to be compassionate enough with me...when I pester for answers he is very cold ...is he acting normal...???
2006-07-01 11:35:14 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What part of getting over do you not understand? He has cheated and made you look like a fool and he says he is sorry it was just meant to be a short affair. Does he think you need some man who can't be faithful and be with the person he made promises with the day you two married? Does he think he is God's gift to women that he can play all of them. Goodness get some help and get over it. Make a better life for yourself. No wonder your depressed and all I would be also if I allowed a man to treat me like dirt.
2006-07-01 12:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
For him he is. You need to think about this one. It is obvious that he cheated on you and there is no excuse for that. How could you have made him unhappy? Have you not taken care of your weight, your appearance, hygene, attention toward him? Men cheat sexually for two reasons: 1) Old fashioned lust which has not been kept under control, which means that he is involved in porn as well. 2) You have failed to keep your appearance and he is frustrated. Men are very basic when it comes to sex. If you do not look good anymore, then you won't get sex. Men are very physical and need good sex with attractive women. If you say that the "baby" fat is still there, then you need to get with the program and lose it. Men are all about appearance in bed. NO MAN LIKES A FAT WOMAN.
Some guys are also unfaithful by nature and there is nothing that you can do about it but leave them. You need to examine his attitude toward the whole situation and not just this cheating episode. If he married you, he obviously wanted to commit and not be polygamous.
Finally let me say that I am very sorry that he cheated on you. I am married and could never see myself doing such an evil thing, although I am tempted all the time. Marriage is a sacred thing and we need to be on constant guard. I recommend that you have yourselves for venereal diseases and prepare for the worst.
An educated woman is worth two. Be fair, but do not be naive. Reconcililation is always better than divorce and healing takes time. You also need MATURE friends on this one.
Mr. M on cheating husband.
2006-07-01 11:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal for a dog, yes. He's not sorry about cheating on you. He's sorry about getting caught. Since you stayed with him after that, he has no respect for you and you can look forward to things becoming increasingly worse. Once respect is gone in a marriage, it will crumble. He has the nerve to blame you for his unhappiness. Don't fall prey to his selfishness. He will have you thinking that if things go wrong at work that you somehow manipulated that. You feel betrayed and depressed because he abused your love and trust. No one can tell you what to do with your marriage, but either accept that you married a player who has cheated on you and will continue to do so or cut him loose. He doesn't deserve your allegiance.
2006-07-13 09:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he acting normal??? What do you think? Your husband went on a dating site, had an affair, so he says nothing physical, then lies about you living separately..If he lied about you living some place else, chances are, he lied about screwing the woman and the other women.
You need to pull yourself together, grow some balls, and let him fly out the window like a bird flying in front of a car..that's about to get squashed..
You deserve better, don't you think so? What about the risk he's putting your health thru, haven't you of heard of HIV and the other STD's. LEAVE!
2006-07-12 16:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's acting like a guy who is hiding something normally acts. So he's normal for a jerk!
You sound depressed. Have you sought counsel? Issues like these can be addressed by a good therapist and it will help you heal and get on with YOUR life - whether he wants to come along or not!
You deserve to be treated well, right? Is he treating you well?
You sound depressed. You have a right to be depressed. That's OK. You may want to check in with the following website to help you uncover how depressed you are:
http://www.depression-screening.org/
2006-07-01 11:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell the man to hit the road. he said he only meant to have a short affair? whether its long or short, its still an affair. if he cared, he sure wouldnt be having long and short affairs now would he?
the self esteem and feeling betrayed comes with the territory when you know that the one that you love is cheating.
see a counselor and ditch the guy.
2006-07-10 03:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you get the numbers interior the 1st place? i might say which you're rude and insensitive. yet nonetheless, who's acquainted with if the ladies human beings had given you their genuine numbers besides!
2016-12-10 03:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he's acting normal...it's you I'm wondering about...he cheated on you and is still basically cheating on you and you're allowing him to do it. Of course you have made him unhappy because you don't like the fact that he has cheated...You have the power to gain your self esteem and to stop being depressed.
2006-07-12 23:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shake yourself into reality. This dude Your husband is a liar and a cheat.
You're trying to make his cheating about YOU. It's not about you....it's about him being a liar and a cheat.
You are depressed because you are putting yourself into depression...You need to get a backbone.....Kick this dude to the curb...and file for divorce!!!!
I wouldn't put up with a man that lies and cheats...His cheating could bring you home HIV+ or an STD....is this what you want...stay with this lying SOB and this is what will happen!!!
2006-07-12 01:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is NOT normal - this whole situation is not normal! Answers will not fix this situation. You have been betrayed and he, apparently, does not care. This is not a loving person. He is like a cancer in your life. It is painful to remove it, but, then you will heal and get better. These kind of men do not change - he WILL do this again!
2006-07-01 11:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋