My husband won't empty the pickup truck full of trash that is parked in our yard. He also won't help with health insurance or home repairs. When I try to talk to him about it, it becomes a big fight with him yelling at me violently. He also blames everything on my PMS. I can't stand the trash in the yard, or the repairs our home needs or the fact that if anything gets done, it has to be me. I don't think this is fair at all. Sometimes, I wish to be divorced and think a husband is worthless since I have to do everything myself anyway. But our children love him and he does have a full-time job and helps watch the children while I work. I am very unhappy.
2006-07-01 11:22:33 · 14 answers · asked by what about government grants? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lol sounds like you married one of them there redneck men
don't worry so did i
my only advice is what i did in the beginning with hold with hold with hold hint to this always use the excuse if you didn't have to do everything around here then you might have energy for sex but your to damn tired from doing__________!
It didn't take long before my man got the hint in a big way
drove me crazy going without it but alls well that ends well
in my mothers words great men don't exist until there wifes train them
lol
2006-07-01 11:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by shellshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you do need a divorce. I couldn't believe your story when I read it, and believe me, nothing makes me angier than when men blame situations on a woman's period or when they say things like, "Ugh, you MUST be on your period because you're getting on my nerves every half-hour." . How can a period be an excuse for unfixed housing repairs, health insurance bills, and truck loads of reaking trash? But that's not the reason you need a divorce. First of all, you shouldn't stay in a marriage if you are not happy. If you aren't happy, what's the use? Next, you were right. In your case, your husband is actually VERY worthless in your marriage. You ARE the one bringing home the bacon, and anything that has to get done gets done by you, and rarely him. You would be better off alone, and if you are alone, then you don't have to worry about fights every other night about substantial things, or your so called "PMS" problems irritating him anymore. And don't worry about the kids; you'll get joint custody of the kids,.and he will get to see them on the weekends, so he won't completely be taken away from the kids. And as for babysitting, you can see if a close family member could watch them, or your very best friend if she has kids and knows how to handle them.
2006-07-01 11:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been married for 32 years. begging and crying only turns men off. you need to be more creative.
you need to pick a time where you can be doing a task together. men will talk easier if you are doing things together.
i always let my DH know when something needs to be done. But i say, i need this done by Tuesday,then he has time to chose when to do it. but don't start nagging till Wednesday.
As far as him using PMS all of the time...do you rag on him all of the time??? maybe you could keep a journal to follow your periods to see if it is really bad PMS. if so bring the journal to the doctor and maybe she can help you.
IHTH
2006-07-01 11:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by magicweaver11553 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't like this answer but sounds like it is almost over. He will still be a good Dad and he can still watch the children if you live elsewhere. Do you want to stay unhappy? Maybe he will be the one who is unhappy if you aren't the one doing everything. You have the right to love and respect and no one has the right to yell at you violently. It is a form of abuse and can be as harmful as physical abuse.
2006-07-01 11:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try doing the same, maybe he will get fed up with the trash in the pick up and everything...don't do all the things by yourself, he will do the same next time ... and a husband yelling violently on his wife is not a good thing... good luck.
2006-07-01 11:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear sister, the two best way to make man work and help in house work is one be lazy like him and dont do anything in house work make excuse tell him u sick or say him u r nt better then me, u both live in one house and it means u both shall work, if he yells on u because of his layzness girl u got to show him u r better then that u work u gain ur own money why u need man to make ur mood bad and gives u hard time ask divorced or
u can show ur love to him show him ur care cook for him best food he loves make urself sexy walk in naked while kids r sleeping and when he tryies to have fun with u say no and u got work or busy or say him baby u dont listen to means no sex with u and talk about other couple or ur friends husband how they help each other tell him his the man here and house needs active man who knows how to keep his house save and clean for his kids.
what ever u do sister it will be ur own choose and remember u r better than this all and need better life and better man that this
good luck bye
2006-07-01 11:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by sofey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change your husband. Only he can change himself if he wants to. You can either accept him as he is and continue to do everything yourself or if you can't accept him then you can leave him.
2006-07-08 09:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by lady_dragonfly_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engage a servant to clean up the yard and for household help. Why do you want to degrade your husband to the level of a servant?
2006-07-08 09:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is comfortable in his ways. If I didnt like the trash in the yard, I would pick it up myself. If the home needs repaired, I would do it myself or if I couldnt do it myself, I would hire some young studly guy to do it!
2006-07-01 11:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a tough one. All i can do is say i'll pray for you.
2006-07-01 11:27:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋