i'm going out with a quy of 18 yrs old and he told me to marry him well i dont know what to do causei dont love him i mean i like him alot but i dont love him and the guy that i love completely ask me to marry him too but hes 16 well me too but still i dont know what to do the guy i love loves me too but since im with this other guy he doesnt want to go out with well then i tried by breaking up with the one of 18 of course well a week later he beged me and beged me and i had no choice and ive been thinking of telling him the truth but he doesnt diserve it he loves me and i know how it feels not to be with the one u love well i dont know what to do im going crazy for thinking of them and not for what i want..!!!!!!!!!some one please help me pls!!!!!!!!!!!1
2006-07-01 10:47:16 · 18 answers · asked by lachaparra15 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
but i dont want to get married but i want to be with the one i love,but i cant unless i break with my boyfriend,i just dont want to hurt either of them..
2006-07-01 11:00:20 · update #1
Say no and than decide which one you would like to date
2006-07-14 17:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going out with someone because you pity them is just about one of the worst things you can do to a person, so don't think you are doing this guy some kind of a favour for being with him.
Break up with him and try dating the other guy and see how it goes. Forget ALL about marriage for a while as you are all too young and immature (sorry, but trust me you are, that cries out from this question). If you still want to get married in a few years then go for it, it's not some kind of a race to the altar.
2006-07-01 17:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by charleymac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell the 18 yr old the truth because your making it worse on him and giving him hope. You need to be honest even though it will hurt him it is always better to tell sooner then later because the longer you take the more it will hurt. You love the 16 yr old then that is the one you should be with. But remember that your to young to even be thinking about marraige. You may be with someone else totally different by the time your 18 yourself. and these guys may be also so think for a little before you decide to say any I do's because it may just be puppy love
2006-07-01 17:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by jean22005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Say "no" to both marriage proposals.
2. Pick ONE of these guys to stay with and dump the other.
3. Tell the one you keep about the other one and tell him that you're going to be exclusive with him from now on.
4. Don't get married until you are AT LEAST 25 years old. Any younger than that and I guarantee you'll regret it.
As an aside, you need to do what's right for you. If you broke up with a guy, you did it for a reason. Him begging to get you back? That's his problem. If you don't want to date him, don't date him. It's YOUR life. Take control of it.
2006-07-01 17:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by Kenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with what your heart tells you!!!
Run to the one you Love!!! Tell the 18 year old what your feelings are and tell him to grow up if he begges to differ with you. Just tell him you got to know how I feel. and Now you can either deal with it. or just let it ruan your whole life. Tell him that he has another girl out there somewhere that he will fall in love with as well . And tell him you are just inlove with someone and you can not help it. and That this whole dateing thing is not working out.
Simply put it. Just don't dig yourself a deeper hole. It is simple to get out of. Don't think of it as a very hard thing to get out of. Think surfacly. Not deep. OK.... Just tell him what you feel and what your intentions are. and go from there. If he keeps bugging you and bugging you.. tell him you will put a restraint order on him. Make sure he really knows your serious about this. And don't give into the puppy face no longer!!
Good Luck!!
2006-07-01 17:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Shaya G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh please, get over yourself. it's obvious that all 3 of you aren't mature minded enough to see your way out of a paper bag.
saying you don't have a choice is nonsense...give me a break! you always have a choice because you made one, and it was based on because "he's so in love with me". that is a big mistake. the other one is 16 and hasn't got much more of a clue than you. you declined to state your age which really doesn't matter because its your thinking that speaks volumes about your ability. love has nothing do do with your dilemma. you need to leave everybody alone until you get yourself together. you can't handle this....how are you going to handle something as big as marriage? my suggestion for the 2 guys......run and don't look back.
2006-07-15 14:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by loving 40+ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simple! Follow your heart. Why u in such a rush to get married anyway??? Don't marry someone u don't love. You'll end up hurting them later on real bad. Be honest now and tell him u just are not in love with him. Yes, it'll hurt him. But he'll never be able to blame you for lying to him!
2006-07-01 17:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say no to both, be with the person you wanna be with first, and i hope your not staying with your boyfriend through guilt that he loves you, cos the longer you leave it the more your gonna hurt him and will only make it harder for you, i think you need to tell him that you dont love him instead of keeping his hopes up the way you are but you also need to start thinking about what you want and who you wanna be with, be brave , i know your in a awkward situation and your worried about hurting peoples feelings but you cant carry this on it will just make things harder for everyone, i wish you luck and i hope everything works out for you in the end, only you can sort this out and go with how you feel
2006-07-01 18:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by chelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 16, and you're deciding to get married. Is that even legal where you live?
Say no to both of them. You're far too young to be making such decisions at a very early point in your life.
2006-07-01 17:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by cjsmommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have GOT to be kidding.
What is there, a race to get married before bakeries stop selling wedding cakes, or something?
Sweetie, I wish you great joy in your marriage, but I think that happy day is still waaaaaaay off.
2006-07-01 17:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're all too young for marriage. You should be thinking about finishing high school first at least. Marriage is a life long commitment not a pick me up.
2006-07-01 18:06:13 · answer #11 · answered by Maria M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋