I still love my wife and I can forgive her, I really need help.
2006-07-01 10:17:08 · 19 answers · asked by troz622 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my eyes, once a cheater always a cheater. Would you reather stay with someone and worrie if they are going to cheat on you again and also risk cathing something. She might tell you that she is sorry and loves you soooo much, but come on, if she truley loved you and cared about you she would of never cheated on you. let her go! you can find someone out there that will love you back.I know its hard but in the long run you will be happy that you let her go. Let her go cheat and hurt someone eles, not you.
2006-07-01 10:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by Piper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were correct in ordering the paternity tests. If the child is yours then you can be her Dad. Reguardless if you stay with your wife or not, you can still be a good dad to the child. As far as your wife, she has lied and cheated on you, you may have never found out if you hadn't snooped. If you think you can reconcile with her then maybe but there will be issues of trust. Personally I'd kick her to the curb. Sorry but I tried to live with my ex who had cheated stayed one year... It didnt work. Why waste time. Just take it easy and one day at a time. Find someone to talk to about this don't try to go thru it alone.
2016-03-27 00:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isnt enough information in your question to give a truely accurate answer.
If you are Christians, get to church, set up a session with your pastor, he will guide you as to what to do, and where to go if he feels that your problems are deeper than he can help with.
If you need a different avenue, check into marriage counseling, go by yourself , if you wife will not go. THis will be as much or more for you than her right now anyway.
I know that you say you can forgive, but your type of forgiveness may be different than what she needs. Communication has obviously broke down, and needs to be restored, be it that you remain married or if divorce happens.
2006-07-01 10:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are instructions..simple and to the point:
1) stand up and take your head out of your rear
2) take a deep breath and smell the roses
3) open your eyes and get the lay of the land
4) pick up the phone and call a lawyer
5) fill out papers and dump the woman who no longer has any use for you or what you are, what you can be.
6) File for divorce WITH reason...infidelity.
7) Go to Target and purchase one spine..they are on sale this week
8) get out of the house and take a look around...you will find an ocean of women who would love to lock onto you.
9) go back to step one, re read as many times as it takes to get this through your head...
2006-07-01 10:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if she comes back to you, a small part of you will always feel resentment & fear that she might cheat again... Don't beat yourself up over it. I know it hurts, but if she had to go somewhere else, then she wasn't the ONE for you! Your love feelings & unwillingness to give the divorce is mostly based on ego. You don't want to allow her to just take it all away from you, all the years & love you have invested in her. But just cut her off, mend your heart and look for love elsewhere... and DO NOT take her back even if she begs you!
2006-07-01 10:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by druansha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is asking for divorce while you still love her? You say she cheats? What do you see in this relationship?? She does not want you. Yours is a one way love. So wake up and do not let her shatter you further. Let her go and keep your loving heart with you. She does not deserve it.
2006-07-08 09:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the help u need is legal help. u need to file for divorce, seriously. forgiving is one thing...but it needs to be done while ur getting on w/ ur own life w/out her. why would anyone want to stay w/ a cheating spouse? nothing good could possibly come out of it.
2006-07-01 13:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by koby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women seem to not be able to separate sex and love. if she is having sex with someone she must have feelings for that person or it is not worth it. a man can separate the two. that is why men can have extramarital sex and not get attached. she has convinced herself that she loves this new person more than you. she has to do this or she will feel like she is a tramp. she will find out in time that she just thought the grass was greener on the other side. but by then you might find someone new and it will be to late for her. trust me the same thing happened to me.
2006-07-01 10:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by rdhjr1966 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give up . Search for Michele Weiner-Davis or read her book called Divorce Busting.You will get help and support there.
I do not work for her, but I have taken her class & visited her site,
2006-07-01 10:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Pat S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want her back at the moment just let her go she might realize what she gave up and come back, but once you're away you will realize you don't deserve a women that cheats.
2006-07-01 11:42:01 · answer #10 · answered by September 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋