My daughter is 16 and when she leaves she is gone for the whole day. When she comes back she always say she is shopping but never has bags in her hand.Then today when I asked her where she was going, she yellecd " Don't worry about it mom!! Gosh your always on me leave me alone."
2006-07-01 10:04:48 · 21 answers · asked by princessdramaqueen_2006 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Ask your parents how you were at 16. Or any other parent of a 16 year old girl.
Sit your daughter down and explain that it isn't that you don't trust her, it is everyone else in the world these days. You just want to know about where she is heading and about when she will be home. That you are a worried parent and in this day in age, have the right to be.
Give her a curfew and if she doesn't stick to it, have consequences. If you are worried, have her call home every couple hours just to make sure things are ok.
At the same time, she is 16 years old and I think does deserve a little time to herself.
Make sure she knows that you can be talked to about anything so that she will come to you if she wants to talk.
Good Luck !
2006-07-01 10:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can an must know where your sixteen year old daughter goes and who she goes with.
You have tools that allow you to insist on that kind of information. How does she get to where she is going? How does she get money to do things?
Most teenagers will push to the limit and whine and rage and, like mine did tell you "stop freaking out, its not a big deal".
It is a big deal. Talk to her. Ask her. Do not provide car, money, etc unless you know where it is taking her and what it is buying her. When she tells you where she will be, call and check. This is not harassment, this is parenting.
As she gets older, and demonstrates responsibility you will need to know less and check less. Eventually she will have to have all her own controls. A sixteen year old girl gone all day and you know not where is a very scary thing. Stop it now.
2006-07-01 17:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by enginerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking privledges always works. You do NEED to worry about it. 16 is a YOUNG age. Im a tad bit older and I understand why my parents question my where-abouts. If she says she goes shopping though she could be hanging out at the mall, sometimes it means different things. If you tell her you assume shes on drugs, etc. this will anger her and can lead to it. Calmly tell her you want to know what's really going on, you are her PARENT and you DO have a RIGHT to know what your kid is doing.
2006-07-01 22:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Marki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from me! Im a teen and we HATE it when are parents are all wrapped in our life! She probably is shopping but we dont always buy stuff! We alll seem like shopolics but really we just try on funky clothes with our frinds, make fun of the guy workin at burger king behind his back and go to shoe stores and try on the tallest pair. Dont worry bout it and what she siad "leave her alone".the more suspicious on what she is doing the more she will hate you.!
2006-07-01 17:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by summer luvver :D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DONT BEAT HER! THATS STUPID! ok Im 15 and I know that u prolly would rahter have someone else anwering this...but I think maybe if u sit down and talked to her...ask her these things...ask her where she is going and wat is goin on....lay down some rules for her to go by. such as: if she has a cell phone have her call u about every hour or so. give her a time to b back home(my parents say no later than ten)...things that that...she maybe juss hanging out wit her friends its kinda hard to tell...but I wish u the best and hope everything works out ok.
2006-07-01 17:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a teen n my mom dont play that let ur daughter know u call me n let me know where u r every couple hours if u wanna b out all day or stay ur behind inside!!
2006-07-01 22:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by celia2cute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to know what she is doing at all times. You job is to be her mother, not her friend. Children need boundaries and even though they do not like them, they are necessary for proper development. You may find out too late what she is doing. GET INVOLVED NOW.
2006-07-01 17:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by twincerelymel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't beat her since that might get you in trouble, but force her to talk! Be like a mean mom and do things (like not letting her go out) to get it out of her!
It's for her own good!
2006-07-01 17:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try another approach, explain to her you need to know where she is in case of emergency death in family, family illness etc. Also in case something happens to her you have an idea where to look. It worked for my daughters after their grandpa ended up in the hospital and we could not contact them.
2006-07-02 07:26:57 · answer #9 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 14, and it's easy to get frustrated with your parents. Realize that, but she should not be that rude. Talk with her, maybe she wants a realtionship with you, but is too scared to talk to you. That's how I am, and after reading this question I'm going to go talk to my mom. Good luck, I'll pray for you.
2006-07-01 19:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by manda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋