Okay, here goes: My wife thinks I'm someone I'm not. She thinks that my interests are perverted. I like TV, movies, magazines (not porn stuff), music, working out and sports. She thinks this because according to her, all these things have "dirty women" in them. To her, dirty women is anyone who wears a spaghetti strap shirt or shows even a little bit of skin, anyone who wears clothing that is even a little tight or wears shorts or skirts, or anyone who wears swimsuits (because swimsuits to her are "dirty" because they show as much as underwear). She gets angry if I even see another "dirty" woman even for a second! I don't check out other women (I respect our marriage) but to my wife, just seeing or even noticing another woman is wrong. I can't even watch TV without getting accused of being a pervert. I tell her that her view of others and of society are not normal but she won't listen. Therapists haven't helped either. Any suggestions? Oh yeah, Disney and cheerleaders are gross also!
2006-07-01 09:24:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you have a big problem on your hands, I know someone who is identical to what your describing her, and she is Bi-polar, my uncle went through this and he had to get a divorce, she won't get help for herself, actually, I've been with her in a store that had a postor hanging up with a woman advertising coke a cola and she was wearing a bathing suit, she went and got a can of spray paint off the shelf and sprayed it in the store all over the poster, we got kicked out, I was so embarssed, and if you both have kids together, it's not going to stop with you, she will display this in front of your children and a son is even worse, this woman I know is teaching her 15 year old son that these type of woman are sluts, even girls his age, just normal girls wearing a bathing suite at the pool, so ,, she really does need help , you may need to intervain on this one, and get her a psychiatrist and she needs to be tested for a hormonal embalance. good luck.
2006-07-01 09:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by shelly65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say, dude! Your wife has a problem in distinquishing between perverted things with normal things. You already said therapy is not helping so perhaps you need to find another type of therapist. Are you religious? or your wife? Perhaps a priest can help in some ways. I don't really know. Just want to wish you luck. I know you probably love your wife if you are still in the marriage so keep trying and hopefully, someone can help you. Good luck, bud!
2006-07-01 16:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by Grasshopper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's because she has a very poor self esteem about herself. I use to be like that years ago until I learned to like myself and my own body more than I did. Now I don't mind how other woman look. It is said when someone complains about others, that is because the problem is within themselves. Doesn't she wear something "nice" for you under your roof? That is were you two ought to start. Let her know, that you are a man and a man is allowed to look, and if you can't look at her you will look at someone else. It's Natural for a Man. Men get turned on by looking and smelling. Women needs the emotional. So let her know that you would enjoy her more if you have something you can see, with her.
2006-07-01 16:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She got the dog collar and the leash around your neck. If she was this way before marriage. Then you just sign your own death warrant. If you don't won't to be in there any more. Then get a divorce. If you been there and done that to , going as far at the end of the earth for help. Then the marriage is doom.
Get a divorce, and get on with you normal life.
2006-07-01 16:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it sounds like she has issues. Now you have to decide what you want to do. Do you have kids? If you do then you are duty bound to stay with her. If you don't then you have the opportunity to decide if you want to live in this type of environment for the remainder of your life. It is obvious that she's not about to change. So your options are limited. Stay or leave. Youhave a tough decision. I con't envy you...but only you can decide.
Check out the following website. I know it has a "dirty name" but it's not. It will help you to answer some of the questions you posed.
http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com
Good luck
2006-07-01 16:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that both of you have to set boundaries in your marriage. I believe if you have given her no reason to not trust you then she should trust you. Maybe you should do little things for her to let her know that it is her you want not those other women. Maybe fix dinner for her or run her a bubble bath after a long hard day. But I think that she should also trust your judgement on these things. Some of these things that you do are for your health and she should support that. Maybe you could involve her in these things and she would see that you are passionate about them.
2006-07-01 16:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by lynnzhere7777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go with her to soe marrage conseling there has to be a reason why she is like that and if you ove her you should try to help her through tis, assuming this is something new she has been doing. if she has always been like this then maybe it is time for you to move on. good luck
2006-07-01 16:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by akiras mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just crazy.... maybe she feels inferior to other women. Reassure her of your love for her, and if you really love her, then dont do those things around her. Good luck.
2006-07-01 16:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is an insecure lady, no doubt about that one. And you are still there???????? God, she must be strangling you. And therapy hasn't helped???? Well, you must like it, because you are still there. Sorry for you, guy.
2006-07-01 16:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to move on . . my God living that way must be a nightmare
2006-07-01 16:28:20 · answer #10 · answered by Joy L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋