Do you think this Is this rude?

Question

Is it rude if a friend, or a friend's wife invites you and your girlfriend over for a BBQ, and then *tells* you to bring beer?
Maybe it's just me, but I think it is. It's one thing to go to the BBQ and just bring beer on your own, but to ask the people you're inviting to bring it?

Guys, relax - it was a simple question. I'm not cheap at all, it's just the principle of it. I wasn't "asked" to bring beer, I was told. IMO, you don't invite someone and "tell" them to do anything.

Answer 1

It's rude because they are the one's who invited you to the cook out. I feel that if you are having the get together or party you supply everything. If you can't afford the beverages or food, then don't have a party.

Answer 2

Well, I NEVER ask people to bring their own booze when I'm inviting friends, not for a friendly get-together. If I'm having a big bash, I will supply some beer but only beer.. if people want something else, then I expect them to bring it.

There are a lot of people that will invite other people over and then expect them to bring their own beer. Personally, I think it's rude. However, if you're somebody who can and does drink a lot, then I think it's rude of you not to bring beer because you shouldn't expect your friends to provide you with that much beer. If you're going for a meal and you have 3 or 4 beer.. that's fine.. if you're planning on really gettin' into the beer.. then you should at least offer to bring more beer.

Answer 3

How close of a friendship do you have? Normally, when I've been invited to any similar function, I just always did the polite thing and brought beer as a courtesy to my host. Like some people bring wine when invited for dinner etc. Since I don't know the whole story, perhaps your friend's wife felt comfortable enough with you to ask you to bring beer... or perhaps she remembers that you never take it upon yourself to bring beer on your own as a courtesy. My advice... decline the invitation you sound like a boor.

Answer 4

Perhaps they were assuming that you were going to want to have a few beers. Haven't you heard of BYOB parties? It means Bring Your Own Booze. People don't want to be responsible for giving out liquor out at their homes and then having one of their guests get into an accident on their way home. It's called responsibility and if the hosts aren't responsible they could be SUED.

Answer 5

The flip side of that is if you didn't ask if you could bring something that would help the BBQ then you were rude for not offering.

Answer 6

Its not rude, many people do this. All the guests bring something. After all, the BBQ is at the host's house.

Answer 7

Well, come on, wouldn't you want to bring something? It depends on how well you know them too. And they probably need a lot of beer, so it would be quite a bit for them to provide for. I don't think it's rude unless you don't know them that well. Because otherwise, it would be understandable.

Answer 8

Not necessarily.... They are providing the food, so asking you to bring beer that you will drink isnt really rude I think..

Answer 9

no stupid. should they pay for all the food and beverages for your sloppy ***. Ever heard of BYOB???? Its rude not to bring something. Theyre just making it easier on you so you dont have to figure out what to bring. Is it a big deal to buy a 12 pack for 10 freakin dollars?

Answer 10

well is it that big of a deal. Would u rather bring the beer or not be friends.

Answer 11

I do think it's rude. They should ask if you could possibly bring the beer. Plus if you had offered too.

Have other people bought something?