Can you explain how you feel about your step-child or step-children? Do you feel like they are your kids? Have you had a positive experience being a stepfather? If you had it to do over again, would you? I would be very interested in knowing.
Thank you.
2006-07-01 09:17:30 · 9 answers · asked by frogaholic2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know i'm not a man, but please don't listen to the first answerer... my husband and I have one kid together, and I have two others from previous relationships... he is their daddy and loves them just as much as the one who is his blood. They are his kids in every sense of the word. They get mad at him just the same as they get mad at me... when they get in trouble lol. The older two know about their fathers, and they know who their daddy is. He is the one who takes care of them, loves them on a daily basis, is here for them everyday, who disciplines them... because he loves them. He is as staked in their future as I am.
2006-07-01 09:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not a stepfather but I know my biological father was very mean to me when I was growing up for whatever reason, so just because a kid has the father's DNA is no guarantee that he will be a better father. Families come in all shapes and sizes, and they don't have to share the same blood :-)
2006-07-01 09:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by dmc81076 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I'm not a stepfather or for that matter not even a man,but I would like to share a little of my story.....I have the greatest dad in the world!Yes he is my stepfather,but to me he's my daddy.I had the first grand baby he ohhed and ahhhed like a proud peacock.The proud granddaddy.When my half brother(and I only say half brother so you understand the situation we all think of each other as bro. and sis.)was about to have their first baby,I spoke to my mother and told her"now you know this is his first true grand baby,don't be upset if he makes a difference."...No difference what so ever!!If anything he makes a "difference with my kids mostly because he gets to see mine more,there's more interaction.I'm the only girl out of five boys,so I get spoiled a little ,But he is the greatest thing that ever happened to our family.♥
2006-07-01 09:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by bamahotT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a step father, im a mother. I have 2 kids of my own and my husband has 1 kid of his own. He has missed alot of his kids life cause the mother had the kid alot of the time. So he is still learning to be a parent. ANd im teaching him. And we have only been married for 4 months now. And we are all still trying to learn about eachother. It takes time to be able to bond with step kids. You cant have it happen right away. Me and my Husband do everything as a family, all the kids togehter with us, his 1 kid and my 2 kids. If you make it a family thing and spend time with the kids and get to know them and learn, over time and patience you will grow to love the kids. I Dont exspect my husbnad to love my kids asap. He is still trying to get to know them. He is really good with them and treats them really well, and he is learning about them. It takes time and it will happen, just take it step by step.
2006-07-01 09:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by Piper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a step dad, well ok 3 of them, the third one was the one I love, he's past away now. He treated us kids as if we where his he loved us no matter what we did or said. Whenever him an my mom would get into a fight an she would say "my kids........" he would start crying cause he thought of us as his own. If you want those kids to be yours then make it so in your heart like my step dad did and everything will be ok.
2006-07-01 11:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by amicque 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont have any kids but Im with a girl who does. I treat this kid like he were my own. Yes, it does feel wierd when the family sends me happy fathers day cards and the kid makes me a thing in school that says i love you dad. Kinda makes me sad cause its not really my kid but i still love him just as if he were my own.
2006-07-01 09:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by rockinbrock2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are NOT married and considering marrying someone with kids DONT !!!!!!!
There should be a government warning label for this.
her kids will NEVER feel like your kids, if you have kids together , it will be you r kids and hers kids, you will have an x spouse or other dad to deal with.
You will have NO real say in how she raises HER kids.
Trust me there are HUGE issues in that kind of life baggage, I dont want to sound mean, but Im warning you.
And divorce rate is higher in second marraiges.
2006-07-01 09:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been a step dad for 11 yrs.and it is tough,we have had ups and downs just like anybody.step parents get the blame for everything.i think i would do it all over again the same way.
2006-07-01 09:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ke su has some issues.Its no diffrent then adoption true the kid does not have your dna but you can still love them the same.
2006-07-01 09:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋