im a nearly 18 year old girl and im in love with a 45 year old man. hes very rich and famous and sucessful but im not a gold digger. he is in love with me too and has proposed to me. should i marry him? my parents dont know.or am i too young.
2006-07-01 09:07:30 · 44 answers · asked by whitegirl668 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
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2006-07-01 09:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Was he married before? If he really loves you he'll wait long enough for you to have some life under your belt. You're too young. Please for the love of pete, watch out. This guy is old enough to be your father, and as a young woman just starting out, you need to live. You haven't traveled, or lived on your own, or even had a real job. He wants to groom you into the woman he thinks you should be and get what he can from you. Maybe he'll say that you can do all the things you want, or maybe he'll convince you that you don't need to. How are you going to have a job and a future? What about college? He will use you as a trophy. I guarantee you that he'll have you sign a prenupt... and that he use you for the good years of your life and dump you for someone younger in a few years. You will be left with nothing, not even an education. You're not in love. You're infatuated and flattered that an older man is into you. No matter what you do, take care of yourself first and make sure you will be okay no matter what happens.
2006-07-01 09:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey but if you think your not a gold digger than your delusional. What else would a 18 year old see in an old man??? And what is he doing taking advantage of a little girl. Tell your parents now before it's too late. He isn't in love with you. You are a trophy for him nothing more. He feels like big man being able to seduce a little girl. Please get away from him honey. He WILL hurt you. Do any of his people know about you?? Or are you hidden away??? If so then how can he love you? If he did he would've talked to your parents with you. GET RID OF HIM. He is a disgusting old man preying on young women.
2006-07-01 09:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your feelings are sincere but very naive. Love will do that to anyone.
A normal and healthy 45 year old man does not want a relationship with an 18 year old. Period. There's just not a lot in common between two people with such a big age advantage.
One of the things you can't see is how your priorities will change as you grow up. You will eventually want to be more in control of your life.
Men who marry young girls often do so because they want to have total control. More mature women don't easily allow themselves to be controlled but rather want to control their own life.
If you marry now, you will be going from the control of your parents to the control of your husband. You will completely miss out on any opportunity to be your own person.
Is this man loving enough to pay for your college education and allow you to build a career of your own? If he isn't, he is basically proving my point.
Now I don't know you or him, but these comments I am making are based on what I know about men, marriage and life. I'm his age, so I have seen quite a lot.
I would discourage ANY 18 year old from considering marriage. It's just way too soon. You have yet to have any time to be an adult and choose your life's direction. But marriage to an older man diminishs significantly your opportunity to be young.
By the time you realize it was a mistake, you will be older and maybe saddle with a few kids. That will limit your options and your attractiveness to other men. In other words, that choice now will likely limit your options indefinitely.
Oh..and keep in mind that if you two are having sex now, he is a criminal and can be put in jail (and what kind of husband do you want if he's considered a child molester), AND that in another 20 years, you will still be a beautiful young woman and he'll be a wrinkly old fart. Do you really want to see that nekkid every morning?
Best of luck.
2006-07-01 09:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think of it this way: if you both live for another 20 years, you will be 38 and he would be 65. He might need pampers and would need to pee very often. Chances are that if he is not in fantastic health, there will be residual urine after he goes to pee every time because the prostrate gets hard with age and it does not empty properly. If you plan to study nursing, you may not mind because you will be trained to so such things. However if are the type of person who loves dolling up, going to dinners and you are more the outing type, as opposed to the stay-at-home sort, there will be serious problems of incompatibility later on. The temptation to be unfaithful might be too strong and the temptation to hurt someone who cheats is even stronger. Remember money buys anything including people who can stage very good looking accidents.
Boaz.
2006-07-01 09:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by Boaz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, a difficult situation :). I am sure that you will not pay attention at any of the advice, except those that you like :). But still, maybe you wait for some time before you accept his offer?! And the other thing, it may be very good if your parents get to know him, By the fact that your parents know him, he will feel some responsibility of the relations. At least I think so. In case if you do what you want, there will happen one very good thing: whatever happens to you, you will be th only one to blame. Life is a big and interesting thing, so you can risk a bit. In case it comes out to be a mistake, take it easy, such things happen in the life, that's why it is so interesting. But still, think many times before you decide. Good Luck :).
2006-07-01 09:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by annconfident 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if you two are in REALLY in love then marry him. You are 18 years old and considered an adult, however, you should talk to your parents about it so that they don't feel left out. I think that the age difference is pretty big, but you can't help who you fall in love with, although you will go through many changes in the next 10 years so think about the longevity of the situation.
2006-07-01 09:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this dude is famous it probably isn't a good idea until you are 18. you are not to young. i am 17 and am in a relationship with a 36 year old. i love him. he is funny, sexy, and great in bed. i think i may be a-dick-ted. MARRY THE RICH BASTARD! in a couple years he will be cheating on you so divorce him and take half of what he has. older men are sexy. ones our age are dull and immature. The older ones are better Hun so have fun with it.
2006-07-06 09:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'm agreeing with the rest... this is gross... you might as well date your dad. I'm highly skeptical that this guy even loves you, seriously. He probably just wants a piece of nice young @@s, so do yourself a favor and find someone else. Unless your Anna Nicole Smith, in the long run, you'll get hurt or become a young widow.
2006-07-01 10:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nearly 18????? EWWWWW!!!!! What does a 45 yr old man want with a nearly 18 yr old if he is that rich and famous something is not right about that ....
2006-07-01 16:19:11 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think you're too young and he's too old for you. But if your feelings for him are that strong, then maybe I say go for it. However, think down the line more and plan your life with him in the picture. I don't think you're a gold digger, just a girl in love. ^_^
2006-07-01 09:12:32 · answer #11 · answered by Akemi 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋