I have found my soulmate, however, he is not my husband. I have known this man for years so I know it is not lust or a fly-by-night feeling. He enriches my life and adds depth unlike anyone. We are two halves of a whole. I don't believe in divorce nor leaving my husband for another man so how do I handle these feelings?
2006-07-01 09:04:04 · 14 answers · asked by Trixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If this is the real deal and not just "grass is greener" syndrome then there is only one thing to do: Ask him to wait for you, but DO NOT have 2 relationships going on at once. Then divorce your husband and give it a shot with your soul-mate. The reason I say to not have both at once is because it will cheapen your potential relationship with your soul-mate.
Life is too short to live a lie. If you love him then do what is right for your spirit. You'll regret it if you don't. Besides...your husband deserves someone who TRULY loves him. He also deserves HIS soul-mate...and if it isn't you then you need to cut him loose so he can find her and be as happy as you are with yours.
Good luck. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.
~C
2006-07-01 09:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by dancing_in_the_hail 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are committed to your husband, you shouldn't be talking and having all of these feelings for another man. If he is your soulmate, you shouldn't thought about that before you got married.Do you love your husband or have you allowed this other guy to steal the love from him? Ask yourself that question.
2006-07-01 09:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the unique friendship and leave it at that. There is nothing wrong with having a good friend of the opposite sex. Also, you may not like him as well if you decide to be together 24/7. The grass may look greener, but a lot of times is really not. Keep it a friendship and don't ruin it by having an affair.
2006-07-01 09:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by Nightflyer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is honorable not discredited to the Lord., even if you feel youve discoved your old friend is your soulmate. But if this is truly your soulmate why didnt you realize it before you got married? Has something changed within your marriage that makes you feel this way?
2006-07-01 09:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by pgbrady614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the man that Trixie is talking about. What happens if 2 people find each other, after they are married to other spouses? I met Trixie after 8 years of being married. My marraige was dead prior to meeting her. I have decided to leave my wife. How do I deal with this, and how does she?
2006-07-01 18:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Steven Mark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should of NEVER gotten married if you didnt know for sure who you were in love with! Do the right thing and let your husband go and you go your way. That way your husband can be with someone that will love him and be faithfull to him. Would you like it if he was doing that to you??? Be a women and let your husband find the Correct person for him, and you go be with your prince charming. Sorry if I seem rude.
2006-07-01 09:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by Piper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The funny thing about life is this, you won't ever marry your soulmate so it isn't unnatural for you to feel this way. Their are many people in the world that go through this in their life.
2006-07-01 09:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!
Run, and run fast.
Do not see this "soul-mate", talk to him, or think about him.
Cut off ALL communication with him.
Rededicate your emotional energy, attention and focus to your husband. Focus on the life you do have and how you can grow in your marriage with the man you have already made a life-long commitment to.
2006-07-01 09:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by kinva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough question, I am in the same predicament . . Our souls come together when we are together and we go home to our respective spouses and continue on with the business of life . . . you have to learn to integrate it into your life and live with it, don't forget, you are more fortunate than most, you've located your soulmate and he is a part of your life . . lucky you . . .
2006-07-01 09:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by Joy L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no way to solve this without having neone be hurt. if u really believe he is the one for u, the one that makes u happy, then go for it. divorce ur husband and get ur man. just be sure u dont regret it in the long run...
2006-07-01 09:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by rjekqlw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋