Well, me and my friend just finished grade 9(we live on opposite ends of town, but our parents are good friends and we have always liked to hang out when we could). He has always been bad to has parents and everything from what we hear, and yesterday, he told me a problem he has. A few weeks ago, he tryed meth, he doesnt remember anything that happened that night. Now some of his friends and a girl are saying that my friend went to bed with her, and that the girl is pregnant now with my friends(Drews) baby. Whats worse out of this is how Drew wants the baby, he says that its his blood so he wants it.
He doesnt even know this girl either, and the girl wants Drew to help with the baby, but Drew wants the baby only. He can;t take the baby because technacly it is the girls.
I dont know what I am suppose to do, I can't tell my parents cause then his parents will find out and he will be dead. HELP ME!! This has been eating away at me and a girl named Chelsea because we really wanna help!!
2006-07-01 08:50:59 · 17 answers · asked by Daniel M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well, me and my friend just finished grade 9. He has always been bad to has parents and everything from what we hear, and yesterday, he told me a problem he has. A few weeks ago, he tryed meth(while he was drunk), he doesnt remember anything that happened that night. Now some of his friends and a girl are saying that my friend went to bed with her, and that the girl is pregnant now with my friends(Drews) baby. Whats worse out of this is how Drew wants the baby, he says that its his blood so he wants it.
He doesnt even know this girl either, and the girl wants Drew to help with the baby, but Drew wants the baby only. He can;t take the baby because technacly it is the girls.I dont know what I am suppose to do, I can't tell my parents cause then his parents will find out and he will be dead. HELP ME!! This has been eating away at me and a girl named Chelsea because we really wanna help!
2006-07-01 09:15:00 · update #1
Sorry about that extened info but he was doing meth as he was drunk and I dont no if that has any effect on the memory loss....
Also for some of you people who are saying its not my problem, just don't leave advice, it doesnt help. He is like my brother and I can't just let him F*** Up his life, I agree with Stuart, I am going to some fire works with him today, i am gonna get him to a councelor.... I don't care how long it takes.......
2006-07-01 09:20:36 · update #2
Daniel, Drew isn't old enough to be a father yet. And there are some deeper issues than a possible one night stand with some girl. First, no one is sure yet if she's even pregnant - too soon. Second, if she IS pregnant, Drew would be very wise to have a DNA test done to determine if he really is the father - but that's down the road a ways. For now, though, Drew is in a much worse sort of trouble - meth. He MUST NOT get started on it. You are his friend, and he is on very thin ice. You must save his life. Make him go see a counselor at school or a minister at the church, or an adult that you both trust. He must not try meth again, or it could kill him.
Daniel, you have a job to do. Save Drew's life. Do it. Do it now.
2006-07-01 08:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by Stuart 7 · 11⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to be as involved as possible. If it is his baby then he should feel a responsibility for it. If I were you I would just try to be there for my friend no matter what decision he makes and I don't think you should tell your parents it's not happening directly to you. I would let Drew figure how and when would be the best time to let his parents know. It's all really up to him and the mother of his child. You his friend and are there to be supportive.
2006-07-01 08:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, If you are his friend, you will tell your parents, and his parents. First, think about it...... if he wants to keep the baby.....it is going to be born.....and .......they will find out. Better now than later. Especially with the meth. Can you imagine if the baby is born after the meth? Okay, how about after more, and more meth. Maybe she was raped. Maybe ....who knows. I realize that people always think that their parents are going to kill them, but that is illegal, and they aren't allowed to . If there is worry about physical abuse, then call up a local birth counseling service, (find out about them through the county human services office). Then, tell the adults with the counseling service in the room. They help kids all the time. I know of this experience, because I have been part of one of these groups.
2006-07-01 09:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by faith2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First the guy shouldnt egt the baby! He did what he did and it was wrong! You should try to talk with the parents and see if you and your freind/s can take care of the baby till the ordeal is over! God bless you for being in this mess. Try to get help from an adult ike a friends parents or a local teacher or something. Good luck and again god bless you
2006-07-01 08:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about telling your parents, you need to tell his parents. They will be able to help him make the decisions about what to do with the baby. His parents will eventually forgive him and if he's thinking about taking care of the baby (which he needs to do) then his parents are going to find out some time. And they will be less upset if they are told now than if they are told after a few months, so he should get it over with now.
2006-07-01 09:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likey the baby will be taken away if the parents are doing meth anyway. You need to get adults involved NOW for everyone involved and especially for the unborn baby. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-07-01 08:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by margarita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a friend and be his shoulder not his mother. If the child is his everyone will find out. You can't hide something like that very long. Sooner than latter the girls parents will see her gain wait and they will question who the father is. Don't worry about it. Be a friend and just listen to his problems.
2006-07-01 09:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by happy2help1981 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain the options he has to him, let him make a decision.
It really is his decision. If it ends up not being his, then he is off the hook.
As far as I know people haven't blacked out from using meth.
2006-07-01 08:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's really not your problem....I can understand you want to help...but the most you should do is listen.....I wish you kids would think before you get yourselves into these things....he has to have a relationship with the mom if he wants to be apart of the child's life....they don't have to be an item...but at the least civil.....the baby deserves a mother and a father......
2006-07-01 08:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by stlquetea76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anthing at all your friends parents is going to find out anyway
2006-07-01 09:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by T_claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋