Kind of intimate question?

Question

I'm kind of embarased to ask this but anyway........

When I'm fingering my girlfriend, should I be putting my fingers inside her? Or just sticking with playing with her clitoris? And if I do put my fingers inside, do I just kind of push them in and out or is there something specific I should be doing? I don't want to hurt her!

Answer 1

I've lived with 6 & known many more women and they all vary slightly in what they like down there.
If I told it like I should you might get off on it -lol - so I'll be technical, which is something you must try not to be. As the last thing a woman wants is to feel she's some mechanical problem. Set out with the idea of enoying it yourself as she won't want to feel as though her pleasure is a chore to you - your own excitment will most often arouse her more. (never assume this is automatically the case).
Make sure she's nice and lubricated. If she feels tight then don't force as more often than it's a sign she isn't relaxed. Try kissing her, on the lips, around her neck and down to her breasts. Kiss her stomach (perhaps gently stroking her outer then inner thighs as you do this. Change to the other thigh, 'accidentlly' brushing her there as you change - resist feeling to see if she's relaxed and any wetter) and then kissing around her mound working your way to her thighs, at this point you might put a hand on one of her breasts and gently roll her nipple, whist the other hand fondles or strokes another part of her body (don't forget to give the other breast attention too). If you've managed to do this for maybe 10 -15 minutes then you might find her very wet and wanting you inside her - you might find that gently touching her on the outside has altered the way she feels physically, slightly. Try inserting a finger and rubbing the lurication onto her vulva and clitoral hood - maintain this throughout. Try inserting two fingers and feeling the inner contours of her, maybe trying to find the legendary G spot by pushing and rotating one finger up to her outer abdomen. Try pushing two finger in and out then twisting and exploring and in one movent bring your finger out and rub one straight along her vulva to her clitoris. Feel gently with your finger tip for the bud and see if it's hard. Keep your finger/s moist and describe a circle around it onto the hard spot and alternate between an up and down and circular motion, every so often pushing your fingers back in then straight out again. Ask her how it is. If she's shy or out her tree, ask her, "harder or softer, faster or slower?" By now you should have gotten the hang of or a good idea of what she wants and where she wants it to go. Don't let her have it all her own way - unless she says stop. And then do so straightaway.
Hope this helps a bit. I hope you're both old enough, otherwise don't even think about it!!

Answer 2

Umm.... This is really a question that you should be asking your girlfriend, since every woman likes different things. So, the next time you are in this situation, start massaging her clit very gently and ask her various questions regarding the amount of pressure, the placement, and the direction in which you are massaging her. When you she wet enough, you may want slowly insert one finger (make sure your nails are cut and not rough.....this is a very sensitive area). You should then proceed to ask more questions. I think you know what you should be asking. In order to have a great sex life, you have to be willing to communicate w/ your partner.

Answer 3

You can do both, whatever she seems to like. If you put a finger inside of her, do it slowly at first until she is well lubricated. In and out is the basic, but you can put your own twist on it. Ask her to tell you when it feels good.

Answer 4

I like my husband to slowly put his fingers in and out and then go inside and rub and come on to my clitoris, this makes me hot. and wet.
ask her how this makes her feel, get her to talk to you when you finger her. and if you move your fingers wrong then have her take your finger where she knows she feels good at.
she will know if you go inside of her if it feels good to her, it feels good to me.
if it hurts she can tell you. she shoud talk to you while your fingers are on her clitoris and then slowly move down and around. she will tell you if that feels good or if it hurts.
when slowly going inside of her rub a little in a circle and ask if that feels good to her. if it does then move out and in slowly. the slower the better and she will be wet. she will be wanting you and not your fingers there. tell her to talk to you so you wont hurt her, if she tells you that this feels good she will want it more. and you will know you did it right for her.

Answer 5

Well, different girls like different things. But so far I had never any complaints when I inserted fingers.
Use your imagination and be creative! Nature will show you the way, and usually the girls also know what they like and want.

Answer 6

all women are diffrent if your having sex you should be able to ask her what she likes. if you dont feel comfortable talking with her you probably shouldent even be having sex. but either way you wont hurt her. vaginas are very strong rub the clit usually that what does it for me or better yet kiss it once in awhile. depending on how tight she is in and out with your fingers will probably be best but the best thing is to ask her shell love that you want to please her

Answer 7

Do both but just make sure that your nails aren't sharp because it can scratch the insides and lead to infections and she probably won't like the idea next time.

Answer 8

Ask her!Dont just try something random.I know its embaressing to ask a girl what feels good,but its better then doing something crazy and hurting her in the process.Thats what my boyfriend does.And even he gets nervous about asking me.All guys do and its ok.Us girls get embaressed easily too!

Answer 9

I know you dont want to look stupid, but next time you are fingering her, ask her "does that feel good" or "do you want me to do that" because not all girls like it done the same way.

Answer 10

up, in and gently wiggle fingure towards pelvic and then go back for some clit action with some kisses on the spot as well...get ready for an explosion and I'm sure she will pleasure you intencely after, good luck and have fun