2006-07-01 08:46:08 · 17 answers · asked by sally3992000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is this creating real problems or are you just not happy he drinks?
Alcoholism is a real problem and probably the best thing you can do for yourself is to find an Alanon meeting. These meetings will put you together with others in a similar situation who can offer up strategies and support so you can figure out what to do.
You can find them in the phone book, or google them and look for a group near you.
2006-07-01 08:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him over to my house so I can be with someone who shares the same interest as I do. Seriously, I not to long a go drank almost every night, I thought it was my job, I changed jobs and I still drank, I thought it was alto of things but it actually was my marriage. I would drink because I was unhappy, my wife was unhappy because I drank. Can you see the cycle. Things are much better now but I still love to drink and I really mean that. Maybe I should go to AA but right now I am under control somewhat, I think too after 12 years of slugging down beers it is somewhat of a habit too. I mean when she goes to work at night, what do I do, I used to just get slammed and go to sleep, now I like to stay up and see her when she gets home but the in between time is a killer for me. Be careful on how you approach this too, tell him how you feel about him drinking, not how you want him to stop. That is looked upon as threatening or offensive. Just be nice and if he cares anything about you he will see your point. Anything further email me.
2006-07-01 09:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he drinking alone? When you two got together, did you drink with him? Seems you have a big enough issue to seek outside advice. The suggestion of AlAnon is a great idea. People (mostly women) who attend these meetings know exactly what you are going through. I know, I have been there and still going 8 months after our divorce, it does help but it takes time for the program to become a part of your life. Just admitting you have a problem and attending once will make a difference. More is better. Peace.
2006-07-01 08:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by blue eyed raven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did he drink before you married him? if he did you really can't have too much of a fit about it you knew you were marrying a drinker. does it cause problems in your life? is he an alcoholic (sure sounds like it)? the sad part is you can say you don't like it, you can say you won't live with a drunk and maybe that will work but the fact is it probably won't. if he's truly a drunk he doesn't care about much but his booze and nothing you can say will change that, he has to want to change it and until that happens just don't go down with the ship. leave if you have to because you are not dealing with a person, just a holder for booze.
2006-07-01 09:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before seeking for any professional help,try to talk things out first with your husband.try to think also of possible things that may be his reason for this problem.
try to be sensitive in the relationship,does he always come home late?
perhaps, there is a problem with the marriage itself.communication will help a lot. your husband is not a fortune teller to tell that you're already hurting,neither you will know what is troubling him.
revive your your marriage.try to go out with him sometime and you'll get hints what possible problems he has.
good luck girl..
2006-07-01 08:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by caster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for a support group for spouses of alcoholics. Once you get some advice and a shoulder to lean on by those who are going through it, it will help you to decide what to do. If you don't see an end to it now, what makes you think there ever will be? Only he can help himself and he has to want to stop, you can't make him do it, but you do need support too...
2006-07-01 08:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by cindyw1eye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Get life insurance on him because he's drinking himself into an early grave. 2) try to talk to him about getting some type of help. If that don't help go back to # 1.
2006-07-01 09:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by tapthisphatazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first I would ask him to go for counseling, AA or etc. But since I have had to deal with that and the guys that I was married to at one time or another, said they would stop but they never did and Im sorry to say alot NEVER will it will get worse. If they choose to kill their liver, marriage, family etc. Tell him to go do it alone.
2006-07-01 08:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by Scarlett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him before he starts drinking and tell him how your feeling,see if he's willing to make a few changes and maybe some counceling,if he's not,,it's time for you to move on in your life and start fresh.
2006-07-01 08:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Him That You Dont Like That Thinks
2006-07-01 09:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mani * 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋