has anyone ever had an orgy? my husband wants to have one but i don't. but i wanna make him happy. what 2 do?

Answer 1

I don't think you should be having sex with people you do not want to have sex with. You should not have to risk your self-respect and health to please him.

Personally, I know quite a few people in the swinger community (I am not a swinger) and their relationships do okay for a while (and in these cases, both parties want to live that lifestyle), but I think any time you introduce other sex partners into your marriage you are asking for big trouble.

It may be worth sitting down with a good marriage counselor to find out why this is such a big issue for him or if it is just a smokescreen for something else. His curiosity IS normal, however insisting you do something you don't watn to is not.

Check with a pro.

As a compromise, there are sex clubs in most cities where you can go and just watch. Participation is optional (this I have done). That might be enough to satisfy his curiosity (especially if you let other men touch you) or not. It could also backfire and make him more determined.

Hence the counselor is probably your best route.

Good luck with this one.

Answer 2

First I would ask him why he wants to do this. Maybe there is something missing from your sexual life that can come out through an open dialogue. During this time you should try to remain constrained and not put him down, this will only complicate things. Explain your feelings about this, and your reasons for not wanting to participate. Is it that you don't want him with other women or you don't want to be with a different man? Is it that you're scared of trying something new? You should ask yourself these things before talking to him. If you find that you still don't want an orgy and he still does you have three options: 1. you can leave him, obviously your interests are veering off in different directions and maybe you need to find someone more like minded. 2. Give it a try. You don't necessarily have to jump into a full blown orgy, you can try swinging. You'll go to a social and meet other couples and you when you find a couple that you like then you can proceed from there. One thing to keep in mind when swinging with another couple is you want there to be interaction between the four of you, you don't want it to be you and another guy and your husband with another woman. Often this can lead to problems. Also, prior to swinging, lay down some rules with your husband, for instance, make sure that you both have a say in what couple you decide to go with, types of sex that are allowed and are not allowed, etc... and lastly 3. If you're confident in both yourself and your husband, you can tell him to go out and do what he pleases. It would take a lot of trust, but if you're dead set against this but still love him and want to be with him, then let him go out on his own and try it.

Answer 3

I say no. Tell your husband that you do want to make him happy but find another way. Maybe he has some fantasies he can share so that it will include just the two of you. I believe he is not respecting you with this and sooner or later won't respect you in the years to come. Or visa-verse. Why would he want to see someone else with you. Get a good porno video, but don't do this. I am wondering how old you guys are and how long you have been married. Good luck

Answer 4

ive had an orgy, 6 or 7 ppl...im only 20 but my girlfriend was involved...plus we were all drunk...i dont know...it depends on how u really feel...after it happened i was a lil jealous of the other guys at first but i dont know after time i got over it cuz we really love each other (aww isnt that cute)...if u think that he really loves u and wont leave u then maybe...if ur scared about him wanting someone else more then tell him that...i think that u should cover everything with him b4 you try it if ur worried about nething...other than that its a lot of fun...if u think u can handle it then yea try it...and dont let him pressure u to do it...why an orgy? invite a girl friend or something........ur call really...try calling a marriage councelor and ask her somethings...who knows u guys might like it...there are a lot of good points on why to do it and a lot of good points on why not to do it...but ultimately if ur not ok with it then no...

Answer 5

I myself have never had an orgy. I can tell you if you don't want to than don't. If your husband loves and respects you than he should not make you do something that you don't want to do expecially something of that nature. If you do it just to make him happy it may cause problems in your marriage because you don't want to do that. I have had some friends that did that just to make their partner happy and the relationship ended.

Answer 6

Haven't been in an orgy, but a friend invited another woman to her & her husband's bed. It nearly wrecked their marriage. DON'T DO IT. She said she did it for the same reason, to make him happy. It doesn't work.

Answer 7

Well darlin thats completely your choice as to whether you want to join in on that deal. I have been involved in several, was not something that I would have continued to do but at the time that I joined in it was a thrill and something I always said I wanted to do. As you know, it goes both ways though. You should expect to give and receive. Morally it is wrong and I suffer from what I have done, but its your thang and if that is what you choose, go for it. But personally, since I have opted out for good I don't feel that it would be a good thing if you were married or not. Tell him to get some blowup doll or go do his thing and sign on the dotted line when you go file for divorce.

Answer 8

An orgy means lots of people and may not be equal male to female numbers. You would have little to no control over who you have sex with. You should try swinging first and if it is not to your liking send him on his way if he likes it and wants more. You have to be happy your self. Have it your way or don't do it.

Answer 9

If your husband loved you and you didnt want to do it and he still does, think about this...do you really want to be in a marriage where you alone cannot make him happy? I am EXTREMELY monogamous (spelling?) and luckily have a man who feels that even one other person in our relationship takes away from the sole love we have for one another, it's cheating any way you look at it, and don't think it will stop there...do it once and expect to keep having to do it ...

Answer 10

I personally have never had one...but I've known couples that had threesomes and whatnot and all of their relationships went downhill from there. if he wants to experiment, get soem toys.....do it with the lights on and the windows open..things like that..there are ways to experiment without bring another actual person in. If he realllly wants to bring someone else in...take a trip to Vegas and pick up a hot whore there.....at least you won't see her at the supermarket next week.