we have a daughter together as well. am i rushing this or should i take my time and wait, and make sure he's ready? i think i am. so what should i do kick him tho the curb or wait and b patient.
2006-07-01 07:52:55 · 9 answers · asked by b_ladyme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been with my partner 2 years.no way should you kick him to the curb.lots of people stay together years and years without getting married,yet they are as commited as being married.I think men fear getting married bacause thats when all the problems start.sometimes its a money thing.he might think a registry isnt good enough and want to wait until enough to do the whole white wedding thing.face it,weddings cost loads and loads.
2006-07-01 07:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You think you are? If you aren't sure if you're ready for marriage, then you may as well forget whether he is or not.
A little clue though, if he hasn't asked after 6 years, he either isn't ready, or has no intention of buying the cow he's milking for free.
Figure out whether you're ready, what you want, first. And giving him an ultimatum won't work, either he leaves, or he marries you, and resents having to. Once you figure out what you want, talk to him, find out what his intentions are, then make your decision on whether to stay or move on.
Don't settle.
2006-07-01 14:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We waited 10 yrs and we have a son together. After 10 yrs we married and have been together 16. Niether of us felt like it was that important and quite frankly wanted to just give our son a proper name.Also after buying a house and living as a family it made sense to marry after all god forbid one of us dying the house would go straight to the other parent and not the lawyers and whoever else. If you are truley friends before love you should respect him if he isnt ready.If you need to be married you might have to consider someone else.
2006-07-01 15:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by flea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be ridiculous. if he were a real man and not just a male, he would want nothing in the world to protect his wife and his family. if he won't marry you then it is because he is thinking of a way out. because without a ring and a date for a wedding he has no obligation to you at all what-so-ever. don't fall into liberal thinking, this is a child's life at stake and this child needs security of a household that won't fall apart. it will destroy his childhood if mommy and daddy split. If he is not the right man you need to examine it immediately, protect your child, and if he can't handle the pressure of marriage after six years of being together then he is a true coward and he will eventually abandon you.
danger.
2006-07-01 15:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by dangerwheel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 Years! That's an eternity! 2 years is about the maximum for most folks....and you have got four more on top of that! Your not rushing...he is dragging his feet. Yes, kick him away!
2006-07-01 14:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he's ever going to be ready. You do have a daughter that will link you forever to him. Ask him if he thinks he's ever going to be ready because you'de like to be married one day. Are you going to wait for him forever?
2006-07-01 15:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by wishorstish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have left him before you had a daughter!
What is he waiting?Others 6 years and another kid?
2006-07-01 14:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by faunpas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes already made a commitment to you. You have a family together. I'm sure he loves his family. Let him make up his own mind.
2006-07-01 15:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by shizzmite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not ready by now he'll never be.
2006-07-01 14:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by Milu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋