I have custody of our 4 little girls. And I have nothing but hell with her for the past year. She married another man before I even served her with divorce papers. She got thrown in jail for shop lifting I bailed her out. Then she asked me to move in her apt I had to think about it I stayed the night with our kids and of course we had sex and then her new husband called and we were still married at the time...Well to make a long story short. He called the police and told them I broke in and forced my self on her my kids were still there I got mad and left .So she just went along with it so I went to jail..I got all charges dropped bye the police dept.And filed bigamy charges and nothing happened to her. She also stole my old check book and wrote over $21000 of hot checks.on a clossed account. but she still tells me and the girls she wants us back but she is still with her other man.....So what do I do take her back or not>>>>>need help hopless in love with the devil
2006-07-01 07:18:14 · 22 answers · asked by brokendestroyedheart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOu have got to be kidding! this is a joke, right???? tell me this is a joke. I cannot beleive that ANYONE who could find their own shoes in the morning could write such a ridiculous question. YOU and your ex deserve eachother...she has so many genetic flaws it is scary, and you have no self respect. You both are nut cases...I certainly hope your children are not as stupid as the two of you. You two do not belong in the same state ...let alone same bed.That biotch would have been locked up for good had she done this stuff to me. Get a life and stop being a doormat loser.
2006-07-01 07:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god would you really take her back?I mean she probably thinks that you are gonna help her with whatever charges she has against her for whatever she's doing or just get there long enogh for her to get you to drop the charges against her for the check thing.Never be shocked at what people are capable of.It's a sad thing but I think she will use you up to do these things and you should avoid her for your sake and your daughters.Why would you want your daughters exposed to these things.I would persue the bigamy thing too.Did she really think that she could marry someone else without being divorced first?It sounds like she has all kind of issues to take care of and your kids is what you should think about here.Sure she' going to say she wants you back,look what kind of situation she's in.But I also think that people should never involve the kids in these conversations,it just makes it worse.If you don't want to be with her then don't.But if you keep bailing her out of the stuff she's doing she will keep coming back for you to help her.She needs to own up to what she's doing get some help for her shoplifting and bad check writing.If I were you I would not drop any charges against her if you have filed them because you will be the one to pay back any money that she has stolen.Make her take responsibility for her own actions.What does her new husband say about the whole thing?Why doesn't he bail her out of jail?You really need to sit down and think this over and I hope you make a choice that makes you happy,and your girls.Good Luck!!
2006-07-01 11:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by dismalrelic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?? Do you really have to think about whether or not you should take this woman back? Are you insane? Are you serious??
It's obvious you must still love this woman or have some type of feelings for her to consider the fact of taking her back.
Try focusing on yourself and children. Mainly your children, I can't imagine the amount of damage she probably has caused those children. If you really respect, and love yourself. You would move on. She isn't worth it..
As for the checks she wrote..You are still responsible. You need to file charges against her to prove you did not write the checks. I don't know if there's much you can do about it..providing you guys were married during the time. Seek legal advice.. That's very serious, you could go back to jail.
Good luck!
2006-07-01 07:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!! She is definitely an individual with some major issues. Do you have any idea if she is doing these crazy things with her new man? If she is then you can be sure she has not learned from her mistakes. I sure wouldn't rush into anything. If you are still in love with her then maybe you should talk openly and honestly with her about why she did the things she did. You can't expect her to read your mind, is she a good mother? Maybe she is just confused bout what she wants, i would suggest getting her to a psychiatrist soon.
2006-07-01 07:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Amy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man you need to move for away from this lady if you want to call her that. I have my doubts she is even a lady.
think about those kids you are raising now. don't talk with this person or have anymore contact with her.
I would try and get the 21000 back from her have the police charge her with thief of checking account.
2006-07-01 07:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to dance with the devil when you should be sleeping with the angles, it is worthless.she is just doing things to hurt you, but she cliams shewantsy ou back, no , she wants to have her cake and eat it too. donttake her back. leave her and dont look back. the girls dont need to be put around her or this situation. do the right thing, if she wants to stay with the other guy but sleep with you then what is that showing the girls, she is obviously a bad person and has bad intendtions,she wrote bad checks, married to two people,shop lifting , whats next? doing something to hurt the girls???i say you leave this relationship, dont bail her out, let her new hubby do it for her, dont let her think she could run back to you when she is in trouble, dont talk to her about anything besides your kids, doing this will kepp you out of trouble. good luck.
2006-07-01 07:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously is a very toxic person. Tons of women have raised children alone, without any help and you won´t be less.
Fight for the girls. Do your best, God will bless you and things will be back to normal.
I don´t think a woman like that deserves your love.
Be brave and take care of your children, you will get in return their love and respect. Keep them in a different enviroment, their mom will mess them up if you stay around her.
2006-07-01 08:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by Clin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you love her and in her own way loves you and the kids. It sounds lile a drug problem to me. That is the only time I have ever seen or heard of things getting that far out of wack.
Get yourself, the kids and her in rehab and get things back on track. If she is not willing to go or if she drops out before it is all completed you will then know.
I tried my best to get my ex who got hung up on crank and went nuts. But in the end I had to start running her off every time I seen her show up at my work or my home. All she ever wanted was to get money out of me. It is very hard on them to break that habit. She was finaly send off for a little over a year. She came back trying one more time thinking that being she had been in prison that I would take her back and everything would be ok again. I could not because the minute she got back she went back to her old freinds and back in her old ways.
It is worth a try to get her lined out but she might be too far gone. I wish you luck but don't make plans of making things work out.
have a good one
2006-07-01 07:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by Itsme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been in a situation like yours where my husband cheated on me, I was not able to forgive and forget. He is now remarried and cheating on his new wife. It's hard for a person to change totally. If you feel like you can trust her take her back. However, she is still up to her same old tricks according to you description and you really do need to think of your daughters. Do you want them to grow up and be like their mother. Even though they see how she acts, you can teach them that that is not how women should or for that matter people should act and treat others.
Good luck.
2006-07-01 09:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH my god !!! stay away from her. She is no good for you . Why you want to be close to someone with those value and morale unless you like to suffer. When you think of her ..think on ger bad things.She will always be the mother of the kids so respect her, but you do not want this type of people as your partner in life. She is no good example to the kids. They will have to attend therapy forever and will have a complex adult life when they grow !
2006-07-01 07:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by confuse06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋