How do i get my ex-boyfriend back? I just want him around for me and his daughter.?

Question

I would really like to hear some advise. I still love my ex we have not spoke to each other in about 1year and I here that he is now married and has 2 children. my friends say to move on. Which i have done but my daughter is going to want to know who her dad is that will worried me.He does not see her vist her nothing but his famliy does. he has not seen her since she was 2 mths.

Answer 1

Your situation is sad, but just think something, your daughter doesn't need to asking for someone to look at her, is he don't want to see her, why force a situation. Probably she will ask for him but you need to tell her the truth, not all the truth because small kids can get hurt, but you can figure out something smart. If you want to see him, you go and look for him but don't put your daughter down like this, she deserves respect, so start with you move, and giving all the love that you can, make her grow being a person with ambitions, respect and a lovely life. By the way, I grow without my father and I didn't need him at all, my Mom was the greatest Mom on earth , and for that I love her and respect her more that no one, I'm sure your daughter will feel the same thing for you if you do the right thing. Good Luck

Answer 2

Honey your friends are right..... you must move on... but you also need to let him know that he needs to be there for his daughter, as well.. Tell his parents, that he can come pick her up, or take on a weekend to meet her other siblings.. she needs her father to.. and hopefully he is paying child support.... but above all do not let your emotions affect your childs and her fathers spending time together, this may be one of the reason why he doesn't see his daughter as he fears that you would not beable to handle seeing him as he knows most likely you still love him. SO tell him your self that that itself will not affect him, I think you can not move on because your more worried about the daughter and feel guilty that she doesn't have her father in her life.. once she does maybe then you will beable to take care of your needs and search for what you really want..... good luck

Answer 3

As hard as it may seem u do have to not only move on but u first have to accept that it may never be with u and him anymore. He's married now ,,,,with a family.

I agree that he needs to see and spend time with his daughter he has with u and theres wrong with u having love for him, but it's wrong that u think u and he should be together ( he doesn't and that could never work)u should talk to ur daughter about who he is and u need to talk with him about her.

He needs to help with her because she is his blood even if he doesn't want it

U need to move on and stop thinking he;s gonna leave his family to be with u( where would that leave his family he has with the wife) and also that would be confusing to ur daughter.

I think ur being a little selfish, u don't want him back for her u want him back for u

But he needs to spend time with his daughter, she needs to know her siblings

Answer 4

don't.. do it for that reason.. Let him go.. every time you take back a person they copp a attude and the next time you have a fight they bring up the past and well all the things that went wrong..

so move on with your life. God has taken this person out of your life for a reason.. it is not you too queston. all you know is this person.. but move on and let God deal with him..

God is getting ready for you my dear to have the man of your dreams.. if you go back you and your child will lose out in the end.

one door shuts for 3 more to open.. close your eyes and re open them.. you get to go on a new journy.. MAKE THE BEST OF IT... and learn what went wrong and change what you need to inside of yourself to be the best you can be..