2006-07-01 07:07:14 · 4 answers · asked by Betelhem T 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Books & Authors
I don't know your age, but these things cycle around. I figured it was mostly a teen age thing...but even as a young adult my daughter went through a couple years when she didn't want anything to do with me.
No fight. No argument. Nothing said. She just decided she didn't want anything to do with me. Hardest part is, we had always been really close..not the dress alike mom-daughter thing, but she always talked to me and we enjoyed being together.
Luckily, I was okay with it. I'd been there when I was young with my mother. Either she'd come back around or she wouldn't. She did. Now, we have a good relationship.
However, I'll be honest...I'll never be as close to her as I was. I did nothing to deserve being treated like that...and I'll never be able to let her that close again. I love her, and I won't hurt her by telling her what I just told you...but...it's true.
So, I recommend keeping the lines of communications open. You may find with time and distance you miss your Mom, and regret not having contact. It's easier to get closer, if you haven't totally dropped out of contact.
If you don't want to call her...write. Not emails...letters. The paper type. Just make them chatty.
One of the hardest things I learned..was that I love my parents, but I don't like them. But that's okay...because I figured out, in the scheme of things, they probably wouldn't pick me as their friend any more than I'd pick them! Yet..we still love each other.
2006-07-01 07:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt the same way all my life and I am 53 and my mother is 84. I feel my mother only had children (6) for what they could do for her. While my father was alive she had very little to do with us but now wants us hovering over her, doing everything. I just do what I am able to do and try not to feel guilty because I don't love her. Some people just aren't easy to love. But that doesn't mean you should ever stop trying.
2006-07-01 20:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by sutra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called growing up.
Your relationship with your parents has to change.
Whether this is a successful one or not, is half up to you!
2006-07-01 14:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by catrin l 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, stay for a while, u will take u turn again
2006-07-01 14:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by Kgs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋