Why do Gays want to get married?

Question

The only benefit is "The right to Sue and the right to not testify". What is so necessary about this?

Answer 1

They just want something to complain about. Next youll see people demanding the right to marry animals

Answer 2

Leave it to the straights to think that marriage is no big deal. No wonder divorce rates are as high as they can possibly go.

You people just don't get it. By being allowed by the state to get married, the state is therefore recognizing your existence as full fledged citizens. The state acknowledges that you actually exist and matter. The right to marry should be extended to all citizens. If we work within the parameters set by you people, then we are not liable to pay ANY form of taxation for the very simple reason that we are getting the short end of the stick in this equation (You being able to marry, and you denying gay people that), but doing that would just aggravate the situation.

I am tempted to think that this question is due to celestial ignorance, but it is just too full of drivel to be true.

Gays want to get married because that would edify their relationships in writing, which is a very powerful thing. That piece of paper symbolizes a life shared, a love made real, a partnership recognized by the state and by society as a union of two individuals. God and religion has nothing to do wth the political move to approve gay marriage, it is purely a political and social exercise.

Straights take that for granted because they have it and you people are never aware of how valuable it is. Well, the gays never had it in the first place, and i think what's starting to frighten most conservative people is the fact that the gays are starting to make sense and are starting to gain a foothold in society. It won't take too long before attention will be paid.

We don't just gun for marriage, we aim for respect. And narrow-minded questions (and answers) like these prove that the world needs us badly.

Answer 3

I don't know...

Perhaps some gay people feel like it is offensive that any murderer, spouse abuser, child molester, and those who have married multiple times can get married and have it recognized as equal to any other marriage, yet gay people who get married cannot.

The right to sue and not to testify is only two small parts of being married. Neither of those mean much to most people.

Being told gay people are not equal to straight people is reason enough in this country. Our Bill of Rights is reason enough for equality.

If America isn't about equality, we need to stop "taking democracy to the middle east."

I'm offended that my tax money is equal to straight people's tax money, but my love is somehow less than equal.

My relationship has lasted more than twice the time of the average straight marriage, but my relationship is less equal than all those failed marriages. Does that seem right?

Marriage being recognized by the government brings around 1000 different rights and protections that otherwise do not exist. Why do straight people get that, but I don't?

Answer 4

There are so many more reasons:

1. They would like to be considered equal to every other human in the world.

2. Right to medical/dental/insurance benefits like other couples.

3. To have a family, yes they will adopt.

I cannot think of any person, gay or not, who will state at the alter, I'm marrying you because I want to sue (did you mean it the way you typed it?) you or because I don't want to testify against you....

Haven't you ever loved someone or cared for someone so much it would tear out your insides to have them leave you? It does not have to be the opposite sex. People love people and want to spend their lives with people they love and it's a commitment in the spiritual and legal sense and I support every human's right to marry be it same sex or opposite sex partners.

Answer 5

There are also health benefits, Social Security and VA disabilities are worth more money if the disabled person is married, some tax breaks are only given to married couples, the ability to adopt children, inheritance laws. There are a lot of reasons that gays want some sort of legally recognized "civil union."

Then there is the simple fact that they want to recognize their love for each other by an official ceremony.

I am not gay, but I can understand why they want this right.

Answer 6

1) Health care insurance

2) Dental insuracne benefits

3) Tax Breaks

4) The right to make heath care choices for their loved one. and the right to find out the status of their loved one in a medical emergency.

5) the right to transfer property from one partner to the other with out the tax penalties.

6) the ability to take time off if their love one is seriously ill under the Family Medical Leave Act.

7) Retirement benefits

8) the right to plan their loved ones funeral service.

9) The ability to acquire their loved one property at the time of death.

10) the ability to take bereavement time if their loved one dies.

This is just a few examples, there are plenty more benefits that come with marriage.

Now I can see that Marriage is traditionally the religious institution between a man and a women. that is fine but Gay and lesbians should have the same benefits. if you want to call it a civil union, or whatever it should just be equal to that of marriage regardless of the name.

Answer 7

While my partner and I agree with you in principle (we've been together 15 years almost) there are other benefits. For example when I die (I am older than he and he from a longer lived family -- the statistics are with him outliving me considerably) the state will treat him as a Class F inheritor. NY has a STATE inheritance tax. We have no problem with paying inheritance tax, but why after a commitment spanning decades (hopefully many by then) should he have to pay a much higher percentage of my estate than he would if we were married?

That sort of thing has many examples -- and it is very, very real.

By the way, I supported Perot too -- the first time through.

Regards,

Reynolds Jones
http://www.rebuff.org
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Answer 8

Equal taxes, Equal rights. Of course its all symbolic, but for most gays seeking marriage, it's about paying equal taxes and getting equal benefits. Plus, if there are bi-national gay/lesbian relationships it would be good for both parties to marry each other rather than have to go through the trouble of multiple not-quite-legal arrangements. That and if you love someone you should have the right to marry them. End of story.

Answer 9

There are a number of joint property, health care, and federal benefits, but the primary reason is simple.

Love.

Why do heterosexuals want to get married? Just so they can file a joint tax return and get tax break?

Of course not... it's being able to share love and a life together in an official way.

Answer 10

spousal privilege affects so many areas. One of the most important is in hospital and death disputes. Right to visit a spouse in the hospital and make medical decisions. Rights to property you have both paid into even if it is only in one spouse's name. After death or while in the hospital, family sometimes denies rights to a gay lover. With no legal leg to stand on, they have no rights. By the way, dating someone of the same sex is not even close to dating an animal.

Answer 11

Well...first we can't possibly screw it up any more then you heterosexuals already have, now can we!
And most important and perhaps a better question to ask is, WHAT ARE YOU SO AFRAID OF??
We have committed relationships, we have families, we're legal citizens (hey wait, we are still citizens aren't we) we pay taxes and we vote.
Only thing missing here is what you people have taken for granted since the beginning of time, marriage.