My x-girlfriend and I split up over a year ago, and I have waited on her for a long time, patiently. She has slept with a couple of people, heavily drinking, partying, constantly having new "best friends". She continues to say she is "happy", but just the other night I was there with her for the first time and she admitted to have slept with others and apologized and cried and while crying she was shaking. She acted as if she was just deeply remorseful, but of course 5 minuets later she is smiling and "So happy you are in my house, I cant believe it". This is after I told her I forgave her for everything. But she is so impetuous, back and forth. The next day she seemed completly different, just very inhibited (her personality from the night before), then she say Im " always like this, just happy" but the night before she was balling and such in a different state. Anyways, she is seemingly unstable but wont admit to it. She wants to be with me, but says she is thinking about i?NEED HELP
2006-07-01 06:35:54 · 9 answers · asked by nick p 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
She doesn't seem that unusual to me. Just because she changes her mood doesn't necessarily indicate instability. It sounds like she and you were in a very intense moment due to your past history. I would think you would be happier with someone less volatile. Don't judge her if you don't understand her.
2006-07-01 06:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by DramaGuy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't tell you if your girlfriend has a "personality disorder" without knowing how old she is and for how long she has been "unstable". It might be just an emotional state she's going through right now, considering that its seems she still has strong feelings for you but is remorseful about having slept with others-- while you were not together, so that wasn't exactly cheating was it? In any case you don't sound very empathetic, so my advice would be that it's not a good match and you should move on.
2006-07-01 06:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound like impulsive behavior. This sounds like bi-polar. From high to low in less than 60 and vice versa. Also sounds like she could just depressed and insecure. You can't help her unless she wants to be helped and realizes that she has issues. You should be there for her as a friend but being WITH her probably only confuses things for her and you as long as she is going back and forth. Be her friend but find someone that can love you back.
2006-07-01 06:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by girlysledgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just sorry that you still believe in her. You don't understand her and I don't think you can help her in anyway,unless she wants to be helped. Let her grow up in her way.
As a friend tell her to get hold of herself. I practically think she just wants attentions. Ask her to take up a new hobby, class or try joining some community services.
I sincerely think that you should get someone that worth your care and love unless you want to be miserable too.
2006-07-01 07:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by Noel Yelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you need to find someone else. She may have issues, but the fact is the two of you split up. Whether she is seeing/sleeping with other people is irrelevant.
2006-07-01 06:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by Rob K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be thinking about someone else, and you just happen to be there, so she confessed to you. What makes you think SHE wants to be with YOU?
2006-07-01 07:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by 1/6,833,020,409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is honest with u because u her true friend and maybe one. but u have to leave her because it will happen but if it's sooner it will hurt u less.
2006-07-07 09:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by grayrussiaboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know....Sorry....
2006-07-01 06:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by 9:07.04.p.m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, go find someone else.
2006-07-07 16:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋