My husband and i have been married 6 1/2 years and lately he has been going out to clubs by himself?

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He also got a cell phone behind my back, and he always has makeup on his shirts after the clubs. We havent had sex in a month also. I am no longer happy. I have 3 kids with him. What should I do??? Please Help me

Answer 1

It sounds to me he is having an affair

Answer 2

well it certainly doesn't sound good with the way you hub is acting ...but until you have proof try not to jump too fast.
getting a cell phone behind your back should be something you
confront him about and you should calmly sit down and tell him
you need the truth.
the clubs....cell phone and stained shirts should all be part of a good talk some nights when the kids are not up and about, and in bed. Ask all the questions you want to ask...
try to save your marraige. you have three children .
Now if you should find out he's messing around thats a different story.....

Answer 3

Not enough information here. Have you tried sharing your feelings about him going out to clubs by himself? Have you asked him if he's having an affair? Have you asked him why youre not having sex lately? If not, sounds like there has been a break down in communication somewhere between you two. And thats one of the main reason most marriages end.

6 1/2 years you say? Well it sounds like he may be feeling close to that 7 year itch. Nip it in the Butt before it goes too far.

Answer 4

Make sure he is having an affair. This is what you are thinking and the clues are there.

Follow him or get a friend to go to the club and check out the situation. Ask him if you can go.

If he is, get rid of the bum. Divorce him. Why should you be unhappy? You have needs. Someone would be happy to be with you.

Another thought. Has anything recently happened in your relationship? Job loss, child, pregnant, money problems. If so, that could cause the lack of sex.

Answer 5

He is probably having an affair. Use birth control so you don't have any more kids now.Open a bank account in your name and start putting some money in it,even if you have to take some from your joint account if you have one.Go to a women's group for help. They can send you to a lawyer so you will be ready when the time comes.IT IS COMING!
He's got the seven year itch.Be ready in case counseling doesn't work.

Answer 6

look, we both know he is cheating, those are the classic signs, he is not happy, looking for something new, some excitment.men want sex, if he isnt doing you, he is doing someone, that has been too long and now you have a choice, stay until he gives you an std, if you ever have sex again, or tell his *ss to go to that B*itch house and let her deal with his crap. you are what you set your worth at, so , what are you worth,???you need to confront him, and tell him the marriage is over unless you can deal with the betrayl.he will never admit it, so dont hold your breath on that one, men will never confess, unless that is the only option and nothing else will work, you have to force him into that situation, good luck

Answer 7

You don't need to move. You have three kids. You make him move. You know once when I was a baby, my father had a short affair with another woman. My mother found out who she was and showed up on her doorstep one day with all four of us kids and told her no problem, you can have my husband, but your taking all four kids along with him. Needless to say the woman quit seeing my father. My mother would not have actually given us up, but it was creative thinking. Seriously though, if I ever found out my man was cheating on me, I'd leave immediately, or better yet he would leave. No second chance. You don't cheat on someone you love. I don't care what anyone says about it being nature to wanna cheat. If someone in a relationship finds that they want to get involved with someone else, they need to end the first relationship before they start the second.

Answer 8

You need to get him alone and sit down and talk to him with no distractions and tell him straight up that your not dumb and that there is a huge lack of communication between the two of you and you need to figure this out or your leaving. If things dont work out and get better then you need to leave, it will be better on you and your kids in the long run. Good Luck!

Answer 9

ok i am a child of divorced parents and its different from their point of view u have t othink of ur children and how they will react to this but DDO NOT GET THEM INVOLVED unless u d othe divocre witch i advise that u dont!send your children somewhere fun for a day with an aunt or something then have a CALM talk with ur husband and tell him u love him and that u miss him and u dont wnant to have a divorce you dont want ot put your children through this being through this myself has made me want to do some crazyy things it really depressees your children and you will notice a rapid change. also u should not fight in front of your children they dont like to see you fight because they love you equally bot hand if u separate i know one parent will have less money and one will have more and your children will never be truly happy again but not in my case you may get back together you could get a separation NOT a divorce and have him know what its like to be without u and his children or someone to take care of him but remember to remind your children that u love them because they feel neglected during this family hardship. hope this helps good luck

Answer 10

uh oh.. this has happened to me. What ever you dont dont put cheating out of a possiblity. I never thought in my mind that he would cheat on me. I was wrong and blind. Those are possible symptoms of having an affair. If you cant be with him at club or he wont stay home with you.. then he isnt serious anymore. Just watch out and i hope your not hurt

Answer 11

how bad do you want to save your marriage? Sounds as if the attention between the two of you is not where it should be. He is looking for attention outside of the home. He needs your attention in the home as much as you need his attention in the home also. Start doing little things for him like you did before you got married. It will be slow going at first, maybe even non-responsive on his part, but he will start to notice then respond in kind to.