Are you separated from you child?

Question

I am a mother of a daughter and I only see her once a week. I moved into my own place and can't get her to leave grandmas. SHe is almost grown so I can't really force her although I do have custody. It doesn't look lilke she will ever live with me without I find a new husband. It is difficult and lonely at times, We had some conflict and have made a lot of progress but it has been at a standstill for most of the year. I talk to her everyday but feel lonely when I go out places alone. I had some conflict with my mom and had to move out. If you have this kinda situation, how do you cope with it?

Answer 1

strangely enough, her behavior is normal.

don't try to force her to come to you because that will only drive her furthur away.

the one thing you need to realize is that even if she had come with you NOW the facts are that she most likely would be moving out on her own anyhow. so try to be there for her emotionally. i know its hard. its the empty nest syndrome all mixed up because of the fact you were also still with your mother and now thats where she is.

just keep going , find things to occupy yourself, things that you like to do and be happy the best you can

Answer 2

I've been in that situation too. One thing I did was to write a journal for my son about the things he was doing or saying, or how I felt at the time, things he wouldn't remember because he was just 3 or 5 or 7 at the time. I haven't given them to him yet, maybe someday. You could do something like that: write about family history, or the things you remember your daughter doing when she was young, and how you feel about the things she does now. It would give you something to do while at the same time help you feel like you're talking to her and in touch with her.

Answer 3

I am not and I pray to the god that you too don't remain seperated from your daughter for long!! Have faith in God , He will not let you suffer.