My husband is a Crossdresser, should I be worried?

Question

I knew it before we married, and the majority of it is wearing panties and nylons.. He does want to go out, but we havent had the chance yet.

Serious answers only please.

You dont have to be rude when answering.. My main thing is wondering if they gay tendencies..

Answer 1

Sweetheart, there is nothing wrong with cross-dressing and it absolutely does NOT mean he's gay. In fact, there are more straight cross dressers than gay ones, I believe (despite popular rumor).

You enjoy sexy panties and lingerie, do you not? He feels the same way, right? Does that not mean simply you have something in common?

Enjoy, Support him, love him, and share the world with him. You have so much more you can show him and share with him that most married couples. I think you are very lucky!

Answer 2

Cross dressing is a sexual permutation that affects a few men in the general population. 90+% are straight. I strongly suggest keeping it at home and making a game of it, for what it is worth. When the cross dressing progresses to make up, wigs, etc., then there will be a strong inclination to "Pass" on the streets...not a good idea, sets YOU up for ridicule, for so few can pass, it is not much of a chance. The REAL problem for cross dresses who, for whatever reason, must "pass," becomes more is not enough. What is "real". I have seen it all too often that the cross dresser one day wants to service a man as a test of "Passing." And, strangely enough, this isn't a homosexual driven act...it is a "passing" act, as if that were proof. Truly, I do not understand the phenomenon, but it is very real. Again, keep a tight rein on it, keep it at home...You have been very generous to him at this point, but there is a limit for all's safety. I admire your understanding, it is probably more than I could offer, but we all take our own paths.

Answer 3

No. You should not be worried. It may seem a bit unusual, but most crossdressers are heterosexual men, and most reasons for cross dressing range from an interest in the variety of sensations provided by female clothing (face it, if it ain't cotton or something boring, men aren't supposed to wear it) to something a bit more hard to explain. A lot of it is probably fetishism as well, which is harmless in and of itself. As for wanting to go out...well...that's something you and he should discuss openly without any fear of recriminations. As far as being worried, I don't think you should...but you know your relationship better than I do, so I guess you should just follow your gut on that one.

Answer 4

Cross dressing and homosexuality are two separate things. most people relate the two do to seeing drag queens and so on. but in all actuality there is probably nothing to worry about.

If you are having trouble with this though you should talk to your husband, and possibly seek the advise of a counselor maybe that will help deal with your fears, so you can still have a good relationship with your husband.

I'm sure this is hard for you and I wish you the very best.

Answer 5

It seems to really fall on your wisdom and your beliefs on this matter. What he is doing appears more of a fetish than anything else. However, if it crosses the line of your acceptance, you may want to get the advice of a professional counselor. They can be reached by yellow pages or friends. Trust your feelings and the way you want your life to move forward.

Answer 6

I don't know that you need to be terribly worried. I know some straight guys who love to cross dress, and believe me...they're STRAIGHT! LOL. Have you talked to him about it? Communication is the key. I think it's pretty harmless. Why not, if it turns him on, and he has fun? You only need to start worrying if he starts bringing guys home. And at that, he might be bi. Just talk to him and keep the communication flowing.

Answer 7

You still can go out in the same crowd or parties involving that subject..check the internet or local groups.
If you not comfortable yet...let him know. The best place is gay bars full or trannies etc.

Answer 8

More than likely no, you needn't worry. Most cross dressers are straight, it has nothing to do with sexual orientation. It is a harmless fetish and, if you can accommodate him this pleasure - without prejudice, I'm sure he'll reward you with even more attention ;)

Answer 9

I think you should maybe talk with him and find out exactly what he is feeling. then, if it bothers you, see a counselor and try to work this out. He may not be gay. Maybe it's just a release for him.

Answer 10

No he's not gay, unless he tells you. But you must be open to him being the way he is. Or else you're marriage maybe ruined. Be honest with eachother, love rocks!!!